Ladies , do you think guys should always pay for dates?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Certainly not.

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    • dirtybirdy
      11 years ago

      As long as he doesn't mind waiting for me to finish the dishes before they let us leave ;D

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      • NotStrangeBird
        11 years ago

        Don't tell me you finished that bag of crickets already?

        *sigh*

        OK I'm off to the cricket store for more. If you're nice maybe I'll get you one of those bell-shaped bird seed things!

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        • dirtybirdy
          11 years ago

          Stop buying me food!!! Do you think I eat all the time!!! Well I guess its ok as long as you feed me with your spoonbill.

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          • NotStrangeBird
            11 years ago

            Oh sure you tell me to stop now, but next time I come flapping up you'll be right there in your nest with your open beak pointed to the sky waiting for a nice worm...

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    No way. It actually annoys me if he tries to insist on it. I earn too, why should he be out of pocket and not me?

    Ugh I got stuck having to have a second date with a guy I didn't particularly like, because the bugger paid behind my back and I couldn't let him get away with it.

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    • Sog
      11 years ago

      Why does him paying mean that you have to go on a second date? Is this really why women don't like guys to pay? Because they feel like it obligates them to stick around?

      I always pay most or all of the check on the first date simply because I am the one who invited her out. And besides, that extra $10 for her half is of almost no consequence to me anyway so I might as well.

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      • charli.m
        11 years ago

        No, because that's how my fucked up sense of 'fairness' works, when in reality, that was most UNFAIR to go out again, if I wasn't all that interested.

        I speak for myself here, no one else. It's not the reason I don't like guys to always pay. This was a once off.

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    • kelili
      11 years ago

      Once a guy insisted on buying me beers in a club. I said, "Actually I'm with two friends and I was going to buy them drinks too." He answered, "No problem, I'll pay for three." Later he came and asked me to dance to which I replied, "Do you really think that you can buy me a dance with three beers???"

      This is not cool but I'm that way.

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      • DarkSoul
        11 years ago

        Hello , well thats diff ur saying that a random guy bought 3 beers to make you dance with him , well ofc you cant accept by buying you 3 beers but u shudnt let him buy ur beer and ur friends one for nthg , he bought it to try to get close to you and u rejected it so u shuld have rejected the beers too

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        • kelili
          11 years ago

          There's no logic in what you're saying.

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    • DarkSoul
      11 years ago

      Well first the guy always should offer to pay on a date , second it depends on the girl i guess , like if she wants him to pay or not if she do want him to pay , she will just let him but if she doesnt she might pay for her self
      Thanks for ur help :)

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      • charli.m
        11 years ago

        But why 'should' he? Why is he obligated? Other than what I guess you could call tradition. Why are both parties not obligated? If he should offer, so should I. I wouldn't mind him paying as long as it's understood I'll foot the next bill. Though I think that until it's an official relationship, paying for yourself is the best option.

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        • DarkSoul
          11 years ago

          Well yup ur right there shudny be comparison between the guy and the girl but now adays its known as guys shuld be the gentleman and pay for the date , its kinda good to be gentleman , but maybe mot always

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          • charli.m
            11 years ago

            I kinda thought that we were moving away from that kind of thought.

            Guess not :/

            Challenge the norm, I say :P

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            • DarkSoul
              11 years ago

              It doesnt seem so since we are reading it everywhere :)

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  • lost247
    11 years ago

    I am a girl and I don't think that guys should pay for all the dates. I believe that us girls should also pay for some of the dates. That way you don't feel guilty after breaking up with them.

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  • sharonxly
    11 years ago

    I think the guy should pay for the first date, becuz guy ask me out and dont pay for it... I dont think he is a "guy"...

    the second date I may say i can pay for it, if the guy pay still, its also okay for me..

    but third time....we will discuss on this...

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  • WreckageGurl
    11 years ago

    Yes, or I feel ripped off. Girls should be won. All of the guys I know pay for dates, even outings with female friends.Its nice when guys say' i want to take you out, buy you drinks' blah blah blah. its so nice to feel taken care of. but i believe I'm worth it, I'm pretty, feminine, and I try to make a guy feel good on a date with me. Seriously, patriarchy is still alive and well. And usually guys approach and pursue a girl. guys like independent girls, but only girls with their own mind, like the guy is not all she has, she has her opinion and shit, not a girl who does not let the guy make any effort !! guys wont cherish a girl if shes 'won' without much effort

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I'm a 50/50 kind of girl. I prefer paying our own way. Or if he pays for me this time, I'll get the bill next time.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Well i already do but then we share it all.

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    • DarkSoul
      11 years ago

      Yup its good at least you guys are sharing it ^^

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    Whoever asks should pay.

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    • DarkSoul
      11 years ago

      Hellp , ummmm i dont think that will work because most of the times guys should invite girls for a date , i never saw a girl inviting a guy for a date , but girls can make a condition abut the date and tell him you let me pay for myself and we go , he might reject it first time and would insist on payin but after he will go on with the condition

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      • wigsplitz
        11 years ago

        I don't really care. If I ask someone on a date, I'd expect to be paying and if a guy asked me, he had better pay or else that would be the last time I went out with him. Period. The frequency of girls asking guys makes NO difference in my answer. That's a totally separate issue.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I've voted yes. I don't like spending my money. Once I even broke with a guy because he had too many financial problem and couldn't invite me anywhere.

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    • DarkSoul
      11 years ago

      I dont know how ur thinking but boyfriends arent credit cards , a boyfriend is a guy that you love him because he means to u a lot not because he have money , once you get in a relationship with a boyfriend you shudve have know how he is and what is his job and his salery if u just care about if he invites you many time
      for a date because not all guys can afford paying always on a date which should happean many times

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        Are you the poll creator?

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        • DarkSoul
          11 years ago

          Ummm yea

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          • kelili
            11 years ago

            To re-answer your question it's yes, I expect a guy to pay for dates. Now I live with my boyfriend and we share bills equally. But before we started living together I let him pay. That's how I am.

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            • DarkSoul
              11 years ago

              Oh well you didnt mention " paying bills equally" on ur earlier post , if thats whats going on when u live with ur boyfriend then its great :)

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