Kissing and holding hands with a non-marital partner while married.

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To any respondent. I beleive that married persons ought to be free to kiss and hold hands with a person to whom they are not married if given permission to do so by their spouse, so long as this does not lead to sexual intercourse. This is because married people can be attracted to and love other persons at the same time they are married. The benefit of this is that your spouse will feel more loved than before and will not feel traped in a relarionship with only one person. You will also be able to observe how you may be able to better please your spouse by learning from the example of the other person with who she or he is involved. I have also devised a schedule such that your partner should be free to spend 3 out of every 8 days with the other person with whom she or he is involved so that there be no conflict in the time which must be spent with each other. Do you agree with this system? Please leave your responses. Thank you for your information.

With permission, kissing a non-marital partner while married is ok 10
No, kissing a non-marital partner is not ok while married. 27
Yes, holding hands with a non-marital partner is ok while married. 2
No, holding hands with a non-marital partner is not ok while married. 16
Yes I agree with your system 8
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I think that would be classified as an "open marriage".

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  • ReeBee
    11 years ago

    Why bother getting married if you don't want to commit?

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    The whole point of getting married is being with only that one person who you are supposed to love and share your life with. It certainly does not include holding hands with someone else or kissing that other peson while you are still married. Why get married if you will share your so-called marriage with some other person. That's so (I don't have a word to describe it with).

    You can call it open-marriage or whatever but, it is one of the stupidest things that any couple can do. Whatever happened to true love :(

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  • Ono
    11 years ago

    I think you're amazingly naive if you really think two people can hold hands, kiss and spend 3 out of 8 days together and it will never lead to sex.

    If you don't want to feel trapped in a relationship with only one person then just don't get married... Have an open relationship if you want, but why bother making it a marriage?

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    It's about jealousy. If the partners are secure enough in their relationship, this won't be an issue. If you make a rule to not have sex, that's your choice. But to limit intimacy generally goes against the open minded attitude that makes you accepting of this type of behavior. If you and your partner are free to express love, while stifle that expression?

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    Where's an answer that goes beyond your suggestion?

    With permission, even sexual intercourse with other people than a spouse should be ok. It's called open marriage, and works for a lot of people. Saying hugging/kissing/holding hands is ok but no more than that may actually be a lot more problematic than going all the way.

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    no never okay. ever. mind as well not be married?

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Holding hands is one thing but kissing is another. You want the freedom to cheat on the person you married whenever they want. No this is not right and if you want to be all touchy with multiple people do not get married to ONE person. Maybe try another kind of hook up like 3 to one type thing. Not sure what that is called though and not sure where it is done. The simplest thing would to NOT get married. Since you obviously are not committed to be in this type of committed relationship.

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  • AAbatteries
    11 years ago

    The problem is your spouse has to actually agree.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I can't wait till jack the ripper is reincarnated and comes back for all these liberal piece of shit whores. Seriously, traditional values are there for a reason and scum like you are whats wrong with the world.

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    • 43joel
      11 years ago

      Hey tommy, I hate radical right-winger republicans like you. Repressionist ideology is the hallmark of a tyrant like yourself who would seek to use police power to exterminate those who do not agree with you! You have a 'covert' Hitler complex. I suggest you get rid of it fast before someone gets rid of you! Now stay the fuck off of my poll!

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Not really, i just think once all morals and tradition break down that you won't have to go to hell, because it will exist on earth. People like you only think about the here and now, it's always me me me. No thought to the problems that will come from letting everyone do whatever they damn well please. Humans only survive through order and control. You want to promote liberal bullshit? Look at the 60's wave, all the peace and love did was leave the future generation with drugs and confusion. It's just selfishness under a guise of morality. As for hitler, well he was ok.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    If it works for you. I don't agree. I have a traditional view of marriage (2 people, closed relationship), and my view is working pretty well for me. I really don't have a desire to kiss or hold hands with other men and I hope that my husband is the same as me. I don't consider myself an insecure person but I feel that those affections and that level of disclosure is best kept with me, because for most people, the risk of actually developing feelings for that person that they are "holding hands" with is way too high.

    But if that is what you two agreed upon, I don't see a problem with it. We're all different in our romantic style.

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  • BlueJeans92
    11 years ago

    I don't agree with your system only because there are limitations. If you are in an 'open relationship/mariage' of the type that would allow such things as kissing and holding hands... than why not sex?
    Such a relationship does work for some. And to each their own.

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  • smartpatrol11
    11 years ago

    I cant see the purpose of this. Kissing and cuddling is not something you need to gain experience in it is pretty basic stuff. If you were asking should you be able to have sex outside of marriage I could understand but to have 3 days a week just to kiss and cuddle someone else seems pointless

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