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If your keep your virginity until you really love someone, does it lead to a better relationship? (e.g. because your partner knows, he can trust you, he sees it as a proof of true love or for other reasons apart from religious opinions)
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Coming from a virgin who is waiting I would say it's worth it. Honestly, if I don't find a relationship or someone I trust enough to give it to, then I'll die a virgin. However, I'm completely okay with dying a virgin. I am the 1%.
Well, you'll have to take some tests and perhaps sacrifice some goats, but there may be some room. The benefits include jackets, discounts at libraries, no sexual transmitted diseases, free use at our swimming pool between 8am to 10pm, less cost on birth control, and cats... lots and lots of cats.
Saving your virginity doesn't "mean" anything. But what it entails, is that sex itself will be extra special since you haven't done it so many times before like a lot of people. With those people, sex most likely has almost completely lost its meaning, and becomes just another one of the person's "needs" they must satisfy, instead of being the most romantic, connecting, spiritual act that it should be.
But as a person who has only had sex 3 times with his first girlfriend in highschool 4 years ago, I regret not completely saving myself for someone I actually have a connection with. Not necessarily for after marriage, but a serious relationship that I can see marriage being very possible.
My opinion is you don't have to save it, but if you are going to lose it, make sure you are absolutely in love with the person for a long enough time.
I don't see any correlation between virginity and trust. I've enjoyed my relationships with more experienced women far more because sex wasn't a big deal. Not that there is anything wrong with being a virgin of course.
If I were to pick one thing that was most important to a serious relationship it would be you and your partner being best friends.
Of course it depends on how much value you put on virginity but me personally, I couldn't wait to get rid of mine. When I lost it I felt a profound sense of relief. It was kinda like getting a monkey off my back
Meh, do what you want, it's probably a nicer memory to look back on than thinking about getting ploughed out round the back of the bike shed my some randomer. I'd wait if I were you. It's kinda important.
Having my virginity broken by my current boyfriend 10 years ago gives me a little leeway in arguments, especially since he didn't lose his to me. I made some bad decisions in the past while we were apart, so I think it makes him feel better to know he took my virginity. As for me, I'm sure I'd feel the same about him either way. It's like we're different people now anyway. My old memories of us are so surreal now. What we've been through and how long we've stuck together is far more breathtaking to us these days than our old, forgotten virginities.
I wish I'd done that. But not for the reasons you've stated, just for myself.
Nope it's absolutely not worth it. For all you know a bus would knock you down and kill you and you'd die a virgin.
YES! Lots of people do this. Don’t let people pressure you. Think before you have sex with them. Use protection if you don’t want a baby and maybe wait till you have enough money to support a child if you accidentally have one.
Personally I can't really answer because I lost me virginity at like 7 to some old guy. I just wanted to put that caveat in there because I can't really speak from personal experience.
However I can't see that it makes a difference. Virginity is mostly an idea rather than a physical state. Women can lose the hymen a variety of ways and men have no physical sign of it to begin with. Since it is just a concept it is only as important as you make it. If you disregard the concept it has no meaning at all.
Personally I would always prefer to live my life a more natural and free way rather then be dictated to by abstract social concepts with little basis in reality. However you will have to decide for yourself how you want to live.
I don't think it's worth it anf I don't see how you can compare trust with being a virgin. Just because you start a relationshio with someone who isn't a virgin doesn't mean they're untrustworthy.
By "trust" I refer to two things:
1. It proofs that you controls your sexual drive, thus your partner knows that he wont be cheated on and there is no reason for jealousy.
2. Your partner knows, that you take the relationship serious and are determined not to leave him.
So anyone who's not a virgin is more prone to cheating on their partner? I don't agree with that at all. Just because someone's had sex, doesn't make them some sort of uncontrollable sex monster.
You losing your virginity to someone you love rather than some other person does mean something but it has nothing to do with the the ability to cheat.
The ability to cheat has to do with the feelings you have for that person- if you care about them or not.
If i were in a relationship with someone that i truly cared about (the fact that i'd be in a relationship with them would already mean i care about them but whatever...) , i would never cheat on them, no matter who i lost my damn virginity with.
I don't think you can compare the two.
I don't know... Even serious relationships can have an expiration date. Save it for marriage? You get divorced. I think it should just be when it feels right.
Nobody can decide this except for you, this is a deeply personal choice. As far as I'm confirmed, I wouldn't do it, but I respect you for it!
Coming from someone who did lose their virginity in a serious relationship, I would say it is worth it if you place any sentimental value on sex.
The relationship ended horribly (not due to sex) and I haven't spoken to him in years but I still don't regret having sex with him. At the time, it was a fantastic experience.
I think it's worth waiting for someone who actually means something to you but i don't see what it would have to do with trust.
Still have my V card like you, but I'm a guy. I really can't say whether I value it in some way, or I just don't feel like putting the effort into doing something I would rather not do (i.e. settling for a hooker or someone easy just to have sex).
On the other hand, as a young male, I do want to have sex for the sake of sex. I just would rather do it with someone I respect and am attracted to. It just doesn't seem worth the effort otherwise. I don't have to be in love. I just want to feel *accomplished* by doing it: I was able to bed someone who I was legitimately attracted to. I don't want it to be: 'I had sex with some unattractive, loose girl who was all over me'.