Keeping long-distance boyfriend secret

I have yet to tell anyone I know about my long distance boyfriend. We started dating almost a year ago. He lives in a different country, and we have yet to meet in person. I don't want to tell anyone about him, because I'm worried they will say that our relationship isn't healthy, or real.

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Comments ( 26 )
  • Nickvey

    who will feed the cat after you are gone

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  • Hateful1

    I hope you know him. Otherwise, it's not much of a relationship.

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    • Ellenna

      She can only know his internet persona, which may or may not be real

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      • I know, but by this point I've seen enough evidence that has convinced me that he is not some creep or fake.

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  • mathewdavis133

    This is a Normal thing.
    I know many people will say things to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend. They either want to make you feel bad about yourself, or they are just worried he may hurt you.

    But just speak to that person one on one and tell them how much you love him and how he makes you happy. It will take a while for people to come through but in the end it will all work out.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    Understandable reason. Normal situation.

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  • MotoX

    Has he asked for money so he can come visit you? Tell your family and friends. I knew someone that had a phantom man in another country. Didn't end well. Be careful.

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    • Thanks. He has asked for money, and he is working on it. I don't intend to visit him first.

      Edit: Whoops, I mean he hasn't asked ME for any money. He's asked his family for money. I know that if he me asks for money, then it's no good

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      • RoseIsabella

        Did you give him money?

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        • Of course not lol

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          • RoseIsabella

            Well, it's not good that he has asked for money before.

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            • He hasn't. He's only asked his family for money, not me. He's living with them

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  • fakeaccount2

    I did the same or tried to at least, but people are so damn nosy even a couple of my co workers found out ( because the one kept on trying to go out with me ) I only tell them good things though, even if it's a lie, just so they wont judge.

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  • bob7

    how did u know him

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  • VetusRebellioIudaicum

    Dr. Butterfarts

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  • RoseIsabella

    You should watch Catfish on Mtv!

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    • We video call regularly

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      • RoseIsabella

        Well, that's good, but don't ever loan him any money.

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        • I know, thanks

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          • RoseIsabella

            You're welcome.

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  • MrInconceivable

    Long distance relationships NEVER work in the end. I'm surprised you went that long without meeting them if you truly love them

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  • jethro

    If you have never met in person, how can you go on dates?

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  • Ellenna

    How can you "date" someone you've never met in real life? And you've never heard of people on the internet who pretend to be someone different to who they actually are?

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    • fakeaccount2

      Why would you need to do anything physical on a date? Not everyone is just looking for a fuck buddy in life.
      And you've never heard of phones and video chat?

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    • I know all of this. This is why I don't tell anyone, because I'm sure they'll say what you just said

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    • nikkiclaire

      Line, kik, snapchat, skype, video calls. Just to name a few.

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