Just my family

short version: What do you make of a family where the parents don't try to instill morals or principles in the children, where you are told you are pretty and smart but never quite believe it, where the father is friendless and dominant, the mother an over-dramatic childish push-over, hardly a routine of anything, where we never hold a family meal and are ashamed of our ridiculous bad hygiene and upkeep?

long version(for my pleasure mostly):

i grew up in a one-story flat with my two older brothers, mother, and father.

my father always told me the most important thing in life is to fulfill yourself, and also that i am extremely intelligent (not a genius though) and that i should focus my intellectual pursuits on mathematics. needless to say i've been spending my last three years of high school at home, doing nothing, reading stuff on the internet and always feeling like an idiot.

my father also claimed my other two brothers are smart, whilst the middle one less so then us other two. none of us are insane, but my older brother seems a bit soul-less, a bit too pathetic and immature, though time and time again i fail to trust my ways of defining the rest of my family members.

my father is also poor, friendless, and has pretty bad hygiene. he considers himself a wiz at mathematics, which i never really knew if true or not. he's goal in life is money, though be it be said about him, he's not a greedy b*s***d, just, i don't know, old and bitter, i guess.

my father always said my mother is highly intelligent and amazing with her social skills, all the while a terrible mother (way too much pampering) and pretty much whenever she said something he thought was stupid he would point it out. then he would say that him and my mother aren't a good match when it comes to parenting.

my mother i've always considered far far too much of a push-over. if i wanted her to smile, i would ask her to, and she would smile. if i wanted my legs tickled, even if she would be insanely tired, she would still do it. whenever i saw her interact with people, be it strangers or family members she always seemed so incredibly self-conscious and pathetic i would just crumble. up until mid adolescence i still didn't cut my own food.

we never, ever, had a family dinner. we never sat around a table and ate a meal together, unless it was on a holiday at my aunt's place.
we always considered our house shameful, dirty, messy. Kind of lacking with substance. Never once have I seen my parents kiss.

my parents never told me i should be nice to people, or care about people or causes, or that i should be spiritual, caring, have a good set of morals, have confidence, have friends. I guess they only wanted me to be happy, for me and for no one else.

so, long story short, realizing what a complete self-absorbed douche-bag i am, what do you make of my family?

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Based on 29 votes (10 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • I really think you should stop griping about your family, and be thankful you have both your mother and father, some people don't even have any parents there for them. Maybe you should talk to them about how you feel. I went my entire teen years without my mom, and me and my dad never related during those years, but it turns out we have a lot in common.

    About the moral and principle thing, I was raised in church, but I don't believe I am a honest and decent person b/c of church, because I never payed attention in church. I chose to follow a good path, and that's on me. There will come a time in your life when you have to choose who you are and who you want to be, because you won't always be able to blame mom and dad for everything.

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  • spamjaveIin

    they sound nice.

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  • gako

    I didn't really read what you wrote. But i Just wanted to say damnnnnnnn you got a lot of time on your hands!

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  • Dude I had lik tears in my eyes reading this! I have a halfway strict life but I have tons of friends a family that is always together and i have a GOD that loves me and u and everyone else. My family is not perfect of course not even close lol but wer crazy together and we laugh together and we have fun! I am so sorry that u didn't get that but it's so good u notice that this isn't normal tho. It's really sad that there are so many families lik this, but at least your mom and dad TRIED THEIR BEST. (key words there haha) They thot they were doing wat was best for u of course or that's wat it sounds lik! Now that u realize th mistake your parents made, remember that for th future but also remember that they raised u lik this because that's wat they thot was best and they were doing it out of love.
    Hope this helps and good luck!

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  • IuKITyphoon

    TLDR

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  • tabasco

    Do you feel loved? That's all that really matters. If you feel that your mom, dad, and siblings love each other, then that's good. Sometimes that's hard to see right up close. Parents aren't always the best teachers, but if they love you, you should see that that's their best strength. I've been told I was a great parent but so many people questioned how I did things--I asked my daughters to be good human beings before following some moral dogma. I was a punk rocker that raised two girls. Other parents for the most part hated me. My girls? They're really great people that are resoundingly respected at their jobs and by their peers. Did they like their upbringing all of the time? Hell no. Do they see value in how they were raised now? Yeah. Good, bad, and ugly they saw that Dad, mohawk and all, was there, day in and day out. That's all that they cared about then or now. It was embarrassing to them then, now it's just how our family was and is.

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  • Bobert

    I read the short version and I think I know what the long version is about but I may be wrong. If what I say isn't relevant, just ignore.

    Regardless of what television tells you, family isn't the most important thing in the world. Once you're grown up you can decide to take or leave the morals you were, or weren't, given as a child and start however you want.
    Don't be too hung up on childhood/parental issues and move on with your own life.

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  • asskicker20230

    wait a sec i just about missed this your mother tickles your legs what the hell you shouldn't post that on the web

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  • SlimFast

    Note to the author of this story: If you make comments or replies in your story, then you can do so anonymously by checking the box that says "Write anonymously?". We won't know who you are unless you tell us.

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  • SlimFast

    I only read the short version. I think your family is normal but not the ideal family. The important thing is to be responsible and take care of your own business. If you run into problems, then take care of it yourself and only ask if you need advice or need help doing something. Be there for your family because they're the only biological family you'll ever have. Once you move out, things will never be the same if even you want them to be. At the same time, don't feel like you have to be with your family. Nobody can force you too. Just make the best of it. In a few years, they'll need your help. What you're experiencing now is only temporary even though it feels like forever. Once you reach a certain age, that's it. So just try to get along with everybody and they will rememmber how nice and helpful you are in a few years when you are no longer there.

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  • I didnt read all of that but dysfunctional families are common place today and thisis going to have a dramatic effect on society which it already is. Hopefully when you get your own family you can correct what you think is wrong and taise your family the right way

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  • asskicker20230

    this is gay you just bitch about your family boo oho you have i place to live

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  • i hate people that try to measure other peoples intelligence, and your family sounds like losers to me

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