Jealousy problem

i think i have a really big problem with jealousy. me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months now. he use to be really bad before. he had another girlfriend. but she lived in a different country. she was just a myspace girlfriend but he was really inlove with her before. i know it was stupid of me for letting him do that to me. but i love him. i couldn't break up with him. i knew about her, i even read her txt msgs to him. he let me read it. it hurt so bad. :( i kept telling him to break up with her but he wouldn't. he loved her. she didn't know about me. that was pretty low of me huh? anyways, after like, two months, she found out about us. so she broke up with him. i was really happy. but i knew he still loved her. and he did, really. he still sent her msgs in myspace and sent her txt msgs. he lied to me. he told me that they weren't in touch anymore. he was still saying i love you to her and all. now, i don't know if he's still loves her or what. coz i'm in a different city now. but he's changed alot. he's a really good person now. i can tell he loves me alot. but i'm still not sure if he still loves that girl.

even though she's out of his life, i still get jealous. i'm still jealous of her. so much! super duper. sometimes i even think about breaking up with my boyfriend coz i can't seem to get her off my mind you know. i can't stop thinking of what he did before. it's really hard and it stresses me out. i don't know what to do. i don't think it's normal. i think it's insecurity. help =/

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  • BlondeandBlue

    You got a good reason to be jealous, why don't you talk to him about it. If your boyfriend cannot talk to you about sensitive matters then I think you know what your relationship really is.

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    • okokpenguin

      we did talk about it. but, i don't know, it still bothers me. it like haunts me or something. i asked him about her. if he still thinks about her. he said no and that he doesn't love her anymore. and he doesn't wanna talk about it anymore.

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  • Its_Called_Love

    I'd leave him. The thing is, he will probably just do this again with another girl... And if he was willing to do this then he really doesn't love you.

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  • fyerdancer4136

    Fuck stupid "men" who can't see what they have right in front of them! Who also use the double standard shit! To be honest I'm about fed up with my boyfriend,I shouldve left him along time ago because he cheated on me with his ex who is also his daughters mother I do know that its not going on now but it still bothers me everyday,why? I get very jealous when he picks up his 3 yr old daughter! She is 5 months pregnant with some other guys bavy,but deep inside I think he's mad or pissed cuz she's pregnant idk what to do anymore ,all I know is jealousy is normal both male and female. Good luck hun !!!

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  • Black.Berry

    Sad

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  • _Elise_

    The only two things I can spot being unnormal are:
    1. You believing it isn't
    2. With how little respect you let yourself be treated.

    Cheating is one thing. Boys do it. But you go and choose to put up with it - while, at the same time - he even has the guts to show you all the loving messages he was sending to her.

    You should have gone that very fraction of a moment and should never have looked bloody back!

    Sorry for this infuriating me lol.

    No offence, but that was the silliest thing you could've done. Forget about your little "jealousy problem". It doesn't exist. I know many women would have ditched him then and there. And why not - I've seen cats and dogs more in love with each other.

    The most obvious thing is you can't even trust him anymore. And it's very normal you can't trust someone that you loved and that has gone and betrayed your trust. He knew he'd hurt you and yet he did it.
    I applaud him for his courage.

    Two words - leave him. Like the other girl did. It wasn't easy for her either, you realise, but she did the right thing. And I know it'll be hard for you but do it anyway.
    xxx

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    • "It wasn't easy for her either"... It was actually pretty easy. It was online after all. Don't compare real life to online.

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  • DarkHeirophant

    all you gotta do is make him a mormon or an arab and your good 2 go!

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  • To long and its to late!

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  • Maybe not mention it for a while and see how he is. If problems start again youll have to leave him

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    • okokpenguin

      ok, i'll try that. thanks. :)

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      • shadow1004

        cheat on him and make sure he finds out about it and tell in his face see that how i felt... (just messing with u) but maybe do same thing get a myspace bf

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