Jealousy

I just wanted to point a few things out the Bible does says that we should try to be Christ-like but the key word in that sentence is "TRY" No human being could ever be as perfect as the son of God no way, no how.
Also I could be wrong about this but his parents and family obviously are really old-timey christians and believe women should just keep their mouth shut and serve her husband food and have sex with him whenever he wants it. This doesn't sound like the life you want and you don't have to live it this way if you don't want to, because you deserve better than that.

Look according to your own faith God doesn't like divorce but that doesn't mean you are going to go to hell if you get married again. If your husband is not really a true believer and from what it sounds like he obviously isn't, then I don't think God will judge you too harshly if you decide you would be better off without him.

Have you tried to seek advice from a pastor or someone you really trust?

Leave his ass! File for divorce and as for the next man you meet, make sure he is what he says he is and try staying a couple as long as you can before you tie the knot.

Do you have a church community? A small group? My church has these things and they even have a program for divorce care because like you, Christian experience a lot of heartship over divorce, separation and failed Christian marriage.

I hear you saying you are suffering miserably because you believed you and your husband had commited and designed a marriage with God's plan in mind. Unfortunately he doesn't think he is failing.

If you have a pastor, get your pastor involved. If you don't or your current pastor doesn't see anything wrong with this situation find one that does.

I hope you eventually you find a pastor or minister who can interceed in your marriage and help you and your husband. There are men in my Church who have suffered from these types of misfortunate behavior that bring misery to their marriage and today they are in accountability groups and speak openly about their own suffering when living in this behavior.

I don't know if your husband will come around through intersesson but at least you can get some support and direction from a Christian perspective.

Don't let anyone tell you to suck this up and be miserable. God never intended that for anyone. Paul's in the Book of Romans( i think) give instruction about divorce and says it was to not to be take it lightly and your not. So take heart, be steadfast in the love of Christ, pray for you and your husband, pray about your anger hurt and loathing. I will too.

Jesus loves you.

You have experienced some unfortunate spiritual abuse. Your husband can still love you unconditionally and you can still be his 'only one' even though he looks at porn. 'Christianity' as it is called these days is far from the one that jesus christ used to talk about.

God does not want you to suffer hun. This may have been something you needed to go through but now that you know what he and his family is really like, you need to get out.
His child is not meant to endure the pain causes by others like your husband.
Good luck!

Praying for death because your husband faps to porn is a little extreme!!!! Perhaps you could try to relax and enjoy life a bit and your husband won't be desperate for a little "normalcy".

Hello....The Man that you were looking for..no porn, no looking at other girls, no movies. Doesn't exist on this planet, sorry to wake you up. So you say feel trapped in this relationship because of how he is. So if every man in this worlds pretty much likes to see other women, watch porn and see movies, you are going to feel trapped with any man that you meet.

Where do you live?!!! Ita completely normal for guys to look a porn! Hell, -I- look at porn! And also check out the occasional hot chick on the side... >.>

But thats besides the point!!

Being jealous about your husband looking at other women is completely natural (for a woman, face it were all insecure)

But I honestly think your on your high-horse here freaking out about him watching R rated movies with death and nudity in them! Im sure at some point Mary was naked with Joseph! And you being a Christian Im also fairly sure youve see The passion of the Christ which also has -quite- a bit of blood and gore (not to mention demons and the antichrist himself) in it. But you watched it because you were intrigued, yes? Because it has meaning for you.

The same goes with men. If hes watching a war movie, hes watching it because hes probably in awe about what those men went through to keep everyone safe, mentally commending their bravery. Men like to keep all they hold dear safe. Its a bone deep instinct.

If hes watching porn thats because its an animalistic nature to think about sex.... and hun... were warm-blooded creatures just like the rest of the little furries that crawl around on four legs. We're -designed- to reproduce and its a natural response to your body's urges to want to look when you can... and feel good when you can.

Do you ever think maybe hes watching porn to try and be better in bed for you? I dont mean to be rude, but you seem fairly strict in your beliefs and Im wondering if that goes ino the bedroom with you. (*assumes it does*) Maybe hes actually looking at porn because A)Hes trying to find something to make it better for the two of you to spice things up. Or B) You just arent enough to stimulate him any longer. :/ Im sorry, I know thats harsh, but either A or B are going to be most likely your answer.

Either way.... and everything encompassed I wish you luck!!!

Both in your marriage and in finding a better, more open-minded perspective on life

its called human nature.

something religion tries to control, but cannot.

there is as much evidence for god of the bible, as there is for zeus.

God looks at Porn. LOL.You religious radicals scare the crap out of me.

alot of lonely women would be happy to have a husband that just looks at porn and r-rated movies and has a healthy sex-drive.

you know what i'm sayin'? it's just movies and looking right.

Only one month - couldn't this marriage just get annulled? Really - I think you should get out of this marriage. He's not the man you thought, and not only doesn't share your values, he mocks them & his whole family is bullying and belittling you.

As a Christian, if you believe God has a plan for you, then he is sending a pretty clear message: get out and from under the thumb of that squalid little pig: believe & be the things you know that you are.

perhaps it has nothing to do with your appearance and more with your behavior. it is logical to test the possibility that you are being the prejudice one in this situation, and noone cares about the way your dress... not as a freak, but someone just like all of us.

It's cruel how he treats you. Have you considered asking your pastor to speak to him?

The issue here is not whether his behavior is good or bad or wrong or not, Christian, un-Christian, or whatever! The issue is you feel that he has deceived you. If you haven't yet, you need to make clear to him that you feel like he is not the person you thought he was, that you believe he misrepresented himself. If he refuses to acknowledge that he has tricked you and continues hurting your feelings by proclaiming his values more superior than yours--then you need to say bye bye: neither of you will ever be happy, because you will always expect him to be something he is not. Your life together would only get more painful, especially for you, because he refuses to even acknowledge your point of view. Leave his a*s to be with his precious hobbies, then live your life the way you want it for a while, go out with your friends, and spend a lot more time getting to know your next man.

Ouch, life is too short to stay in that arrangement.

Especially if there are no kids, I would already have legal papers in hand, or what @Moonlit_Heart said. wtfever.

Get with someone where you can BE YOURSELF again!

Get a marriage annulment if you don't believe in divorce.

Well, he betrayed you, which is horrible. However, your a obviously a god-loving, true heart christian.
Therefore, I really couldn't care less.

Moms are overprotective. If your girl loves you for who you are, then screw her mom. Not literally, please. ;)

I have a tattoo... planning on getting another one very soon for my birthday. I think they're hot.

Dont even think about doing anything to yourself. You need to kick him to the curb. I had the same kind of husband in my first marriage. He would even go outside and masterbate outside someones window then tell me if I was the kind of wife I should be he wouldnt have to do this. I had long blond haie and weighed 118lbs. God does NOT expect you to live like this. And as far as divorce do it, he is the one that will burn in hell for his actions..he is suppose to trat and love you in the same way that God treated and loved the church does that sound like what he is doing? He is trying to brainwash you, get out while you can.

Well maybe if you went to the gym, got into super-model shape and started acting more like a whore he wouldn't have to look at porn. While you're at it, bring some of your super-model girl friends home with you and whore it up together.
As far as your alleged brain goes, there is no sign of it in your story, so maybe it would be better not to rely on it too much.