Jealous of my little sister and pretty girls?

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So everyone online always tells me I'm beautiful and if they knew me in person they'd like me or check me out if they seen me. Well in person it's different. I'm shy and introverted and I feel ugly cause my little sister has a lot of guy friends and even a boyfriend my age. I don't like the way they ignore me when I try to join into their conversations not with her boyfriend just with her and her friends and guy friends.

It's like I'm invisible to everyone no one listens or cares what I have to say they all talk over me and will laugh when another person cracks a joke but when I say something or tell a joke no one laughs or takes me serious. They all flirt with her and her friend. I feel even uglier cause my sister was in a group convo on KIK and sent a picture of me and everyone kept talking over the picture not one said I was cute or anything. I know online people always compliment me.

I get jealous/sad easily and this just made me feel ugly. My sister and her friend were both sending pictures in the room and they were all complimenting her and my sister and also when they mention my name they all talk over and will only talk about theirselves until one of them is brought up. What's wrong with me? Just cause I'm shy I can't become noticed? Do guys really like girls that are talkative and act sexual/want attention constantly.

I'm quiet, soft spoken, and I don't like hurting peoples feelings. I don't cuss out guys cause I know that could hurt someone's feelings and I know girls who do this cause they think it's funny or it's their way of playing. I'm not a touchy feely person and don't hit guys for fun. I don't like approaching people but I am funny so I heard I used to smile a lot. I'm 21 btw and my sister is 17.

I just hate that everyone online thinks I'm a stunner while in person I never get noticed. I hate comparing myself to everyone. I hate being ignored. I hate feeling jealous. All I want is for someone to accept the way I am. I want a friend but it seems like everyone I know only want loud, talkative people to be their friend. Since I'm invisible to everyone I know.

I don't think I'm beautiful or else I'd probably have more friends or even a guy in person that liked me. My lil sis has a better social life than I do but she's also an extrovert. I hate how she says she's shy and doesn't have many friends cause she goes out almost every day with her friend to the gym and is constantly talking on the phone with people and gets called beautiful.

I have no one, I don't have friends, I only text one person which lives in another country, People always ignore me/talk over me, No one takes me serious. I'm starting to hate it and it's starting to really annoy me.. Is anyone else in a similar situation or could help me with this? I also get told online that I'm sweet and have a good personality. I'm not mean and I've heard I'm nice but now I don't even know.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago | pl

    I understand you :)

    We even have a lot in common.

    I reached a crossroad a while back. It happened when I was at some function with 6 friends. I was telling a joke and wasn't even 8 seconds in when one of them started talking and everyone listened to her and completely ignored me.
    This has been happening for a while.

    That particular day I came up with my saying: "I'm sorry, bitch, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

    They were so shocked that the quiet, shy guy said that. I gave them all a big 'fuck you' and got into my car and drove home.

    I stopped talking to all of them. Now I am on my own. Not alone or lonely, because I naturally draw people toward me.

    Best. Day. Ever.

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    • regisphilbin
      9 years ago

      it takes an enormous amount of self-confidence to stand up for yourself like that. i applaud you as a shy guy myself who would never have the guts to do what you did!

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    • Fall_leaves
      9 years ago

      I wish I had said this on a few occasions, bravo to you.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      9 years ago

      *applaud*

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    • notnormal93
      9 years ago

      Aw people are so rude. D: I like that saying though lol

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  • seekelp
    9 years ago

    Pride in appearance is overrated. It sounds like the real issue is that you're shy and don't have confidence- work on that by taking pride in something else. You said you're 21- if you're not pursuing education currently, start.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      I think seekelp offered good advice and it relates to me in a way. I have never been jealous of others because I though they looked better, I personally don't care if they do, but more so because I am a slower individual and suck at most things I try. I don't have much confidence in myself and I feel unnoticed like you.

      However, there are some ways I am building my confidence. I am highly interested in the natural world. I am trying my hardest to learn about the environments and natural disasters. I have noticed that too many people have knowledge about that subject and it is way of me contributing to society and I feel more confident about myself. If you have something you are interested in, do everything you can to learn about that subject.

      Try learning about other interesting topics that people aren't familiar with. Say an aboriginal tribe in Australia (just throwing ideas out).

      If you find people are cutting you off when you talk, or aren't paying much attention try being more assertive than nice, which for me isn't easy. Start with small groups first, and maybe join a club where you can share your feelings about a certain topic.

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  • Dazed_dreamer
    9 years ago

    Do your own thing. Lose the jealousy and focus on being your own person and you'll be alot happier.

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  • Toxicuniverse
    9 years ago

    Are u ugly though

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  • ALESTORM
    9 years ago

    Sometimes you gotta learn to love yourself ditch your sisters friends I'm sure they're some likeminded people for you. Or find a hobby and meet people who have a similar interest as you that's how I met my friend I used to be an introvert it kinda brought me out of my shell and made me realise my own self worth so drop the hate and jealousy it's just emotional baggage that drags you down and also smiling also helps.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    get even , have a better personality

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