Jealous of my boyfriend's male best friend

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My boyfriend's best friend is biologically male but he identifies as agender and looks totally female so much to the point that I thought he was female when I first met him. Not only that, but he is very very pretty. He wears makeup and women's clothes better than I do. I've even seen straight males go after him. It's not so much that I have a problem with my boyfriend being around other females. He has female friends that are pretty and I have no problem with that, but this particular friend he is always with. They talk for hours on the phone, they spend more time together than I do with him, and it concerns me. My boyfriend is heterosexual (or at least he claims to be)and I know they're close friends, but I can't help but to fear he may have feelings for him. I told him he couldn't hang out with him anymore and he got really mad at me. His best friend may not have any intentions of getting in between us, but they definitely share something. Is it normal I'm jealous like this?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    You will never be able to have with him what him and his best friend has. That's just the way it is and I'm sure it's the same with you and your best friend. The best friend is a support structure that I would even say is more important that a simple relationship. If something between you and your BF happens, he has his friend to support him.

    You trying to make sure he can't see his best friend anymore is ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous, and if I was him I would show you the door.

    Is this situation normal? I wouldn't say so. You need to sort yourself out and trust your BF until he gives you a reason not to, and having a pretty male best friend is not a reason for his trust to be criticized.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If you don't have trust, you don't really have much of a relationship to lose. So why be jealous?

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    • thefountainsailor
      8 years ago

      My wife, 42 years my junior, and I have a relationship built on trust, and missionary position sex.

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  • lunchbag
    8 years ago

    No offense, but trying to restrict your partner's social interactions is really shitty and manipulative. If you're having problems with this, talk to him about it. Let him know how you're feeling, work through the issue. If you won't do that, then just end it. If you can't have trust in a relationship it's doomed to fail anyway

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