Ive never felt worse than on the day my dad turned his back on me iin?

Obviously It's normal!! How could you're father blame you for that happening?! You're his daughter... He should be planning the sadistic murder of you're rapists... Anyone should be crushed by this. His behavior is heartless and I am so sorry for what happened. He is probably upset with himself for letting that happen to you.. I hope he realizes what he did to you and fixes it. I'm so sorry, and good luck to you.

Okay, first of all, I'm so sorry for what happened to you. It happened to my friend a few months back and her mum told her it was her own fault because she dressed in a way that said she was "asking for it..." But no MEANS no. It doesn't matter how a woman dresses @ItDuz, she doesn't deserve that and it's NOT her own fault, and wouldn't be even if she had been half naked! It's the right of a woman OR man to say no. If someone initiates sex and you don't want it, you're allowed to say that! If a man was walking home and two women jumped out on him because he was wearing a vest that showed a lot of skin, would he deserve it? No! And they couldn't force him to have sex against his will anyway, but it's not that simple for women. I blame a lot of the porn there is, they show women sitting around, some man comes in and starts touching her, she says no but gets talked into it, next thing she's moaning and enjoying it! So men get this idea that women want to be talked into it and then they'll love it! NONSENSE!!! You DIDN'T deserve it, poll creator! Please remember that. And secondly (going only by my friend's situation) it seems to me, as an outsider, that your father is just so upset by what happened to you and so angry at HIMSELF for not protecting you properly, that he's looking for someone else to blame, and since he doesn't know the men who did that to you, then that is unfortunately you in this case, sweetie. He's just taking it out on you, and doesn't mean to... Have you told him how you feel? My dad was like my superman, too, but he died 7 years ago and I was so lost I thought I'd never recover. I know it's not the same thing, but when someone you really love (and especially someone who is your hero) suddenly isn't there anymore, it HURTS. I think if you speak to him about how you feel, he'll understand how lost you feel and how much you actually need him to help you through it. Counselling's a start, but no therapist has a magic wand - you need support from loved ones as well. Stay positive, and remember, it's NOT your fault. Take care. x

Unless you actually uttered the words "please, rape me" you have absolutely NO responsibility for the rape.
As a father of four, I am appalled at how your father responded to your situation.
As George said you really need to seek some professional help to guide you through coping with both the rape, AND your father's response.

Pumpkin, I'm so sorry that this happened to you! I think it's horrible the way your father acted. You needed support and he just abandoned you like he was almost punishing you... I'm sure it's hard for him to deal with this, but he should've acted more supportive.... I think you should see a therapist to help you deal with this.

Yo...I'm so sorry! It is totally normal that you feel so hurt, maybe even betrayed. Being devastated by all of this is totally expected. I really hope your father gets into his right mind. I also hope you reported the crime !!!

I think you should speak to someone a bit more qualified than strangers on the internet.

It's normal that you feel like way because of your dad's actions.

What's NOT normal is HIS actions.

i was trolling about FBI part (obviously) but the rest is what i think

and sorry about huge you being scared thing gosh first im almost killed cuz im athiest now ppl calling me dumb for saying what it could be. i need a drink or somthing

Depends. He could be hurting just as much or more than you. You've left it too long for anything to be done, and now he feels he can't help at all due to it being highly unlikely of finding those people.

Not taking their side, I completely agree that it's terrible what happened to you, but. The average man isn't going to rape someone for dressing provocative, but the criminals and predators of the world definetly will get the idea to victimize someone dressed in such a way. Not saying that it's the woman's fault for getting raped for dressing in such a way, I'm saying that it's a risk to do so, and women should be more smart about it.

Then again, such people don't need someone to dress in "sexy" clothing to see someone as a target.
Women need to be aware that walking in somewhere like NYC in the middle of the night, alone, is risky, not only for them, but for males, too.

Back on to your father. He might be feeling very emotional. He might be so shocked that you left it so long that he can't do anything about it, that he's blaming you for not telling him sooner to get the men prosecuted, and in his emotional state he is mixing up that he blames you for not coming forward about it to do something with the actual rape itself.

The rape wasn't your fault, and your father most likely is/was in shock of it, and he may even blame you for not coming forward about it sooner to make the rapers face the punishment they deserve.

i think your dad is sorta bored of dealing with all your problems (rape part is fake cuz you would be to scared to spell NYC correctly) but your dad wants to see you deal with your own problems not him oh and ima FBI in NYC we already cought them theye said you raped them... but i know its a lie. theye getndeath sentace btw