Its been a year should i still feel like this?

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Im a 59 year old woman. My Husband of 34 years died in Feb of last year. since his death i have been thru many feelings and changes. I was very guilty at first cause he died afterhaving a seizure and i didnt check on him after even though his death certificate said heart failure. me and him had not been getting along for a few years and the word separation and divorce had came up numerous times .
In the past year i have been sad and releved and depressed and all feelings i loved my husband but it seems most people dont think so and so think it shouldnt
bother me as much my husbands death. in short it bothers me more now i feel very depressed and just frustrated.
i want to get on with my life but i cant seem to i want to be a free merry widow i want my kids to understand i needd to do this and i need to want and be with othere people.

im confused if i should feel guilty cause i want to be with
othere men and people and have fun and then the next hour or day i feel i dont is this normal?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Those people that you are talking to sound like they really need to shove it. These emotions are normal for someone who lost their husband, he WAS your husband after all. Having marital problems does not make you guys any less married or in love. Everything you are experiencing is normal when it comes to grief and loss.

    Don't ask what you should want-nobody should be expecting anything of you right now. You need to heal, figure out how to deal with your loss, rebuild your life without him and move from there. Don't rush into dating other men, allow yourself time to grieve.

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