It was just a phase!!!!

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I am 22 and iv slept with 2 guys in my life, one when I was 16, we were together for around 6 months and once with a guy when I was 18 on a one night stand, I then started a relationship with a girl at 18 and we have been a secret item ever since. . . the problem is I think it was just a phase I have been avoiding anything sexual for the past year at least!! I long to be in a relationship with a guy, but no-one seems to even notice that I exist! My friends are noticed all of the time and meet up with so many different guys, I dress up so carefully when I go out, I try to make myself look pretty, I cover up any flaws, I try to be outgoing and chatty with guys but they are just not interested!!Im starting to think that im just too ugly looking or maybe gay looking for guys to seriously consider me as a girlfriend!! Maybe I should just live with what I have, I mean I have no doubt the girl loves me but Should I be unhappy just so im not alone? Anyone have any useful advice??

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    PICS. Show pics. Then we can talk about why guys do not like you.

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  • Punk22
    14 years ago

    ur pathetic! and u really pissed me off! just bcoz u cant find a man to be with u go and make some poor woman believe that u love her? and u wonder what it is that ur doing wrong? ur so blinded by finding a d*** u dont even feel sorry for the girl! if u have any compassion u would end it and let her find someone who would TRULY love her!

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  • samatron1380
    15 years ago

    You should be with who makes you happy. If your not happy with the girl that you are with you should cut it off. As far as getting a guy goes, a lot of guys are intimidated by girls. They are probably interested in you but they are too afraid to approach you. Sometimes you have to approach them or just give them a hint that you are interested in them. If you do that it wont be long till you get a guy. good luck

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  • lovenug
    15 years ago

    Don't lie to yourself or to your girl. If you want to be with a guy don't deny yourself from being happy.

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  • aeroboy27
    15 years ago

    It sounds to me like you're trying too hard, Just be yourself, go out have a good time, socialize, talk to people, make lots of friends, and good things will come to you eventually. If you want a guy, dont lie to yourself, just go for it!

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  • biblebashingtreehugger
    15 years ago

    you shouldnt doubt yourself like this, if you are thinking negative thoughts about yourself like this you will start to go down a dangerous road, i reccomend that you simply figure out if it is a phase or if it isnt, as soon as you got that sorted it wont be that dificult, just keep confident in yourself and if you find someone that makes you feel good about yourself keep them around

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    • pink_apple
      15 years ago

      God you remind me of myself! I swap back and forth between liking men and women, when men piss me off enough i switch back to the idea of women but deep down I know i'll end up with a man. I still think I'm attracted to women, but it could be a mixture of the friendship side to that kind of romantic relationship and feeling more myself around them. Is it like that with you at all? Clearly you are not a lesbian, possibly bi? or maybe you were bicuriou? But because it's a secret relationship that suggests to me you aren't serious enough about it if no one at all knows.

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  • YumInsanity
    15 years ago

    i'm sorry but we're really going to need to see a picture before we can come to any sort of conclusion

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  • galeni
    16 years ago

    if it was just a phase, then cut out COMPLETELY the lesbian part. many guys find it as a turn on but in the case of looking for a serious relationship, it is the opposite.
    you do say that you try your best when you go out but still there si something that can be sensed ...
    good luck
    galeni

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  • [Old Memory]
    16 years ago

    Post a pic

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