It turns me on that he has a criminal record

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There’s this guy that I work with and we recently started going out and I found out that he is an ex con. He served 2 years in prison for domestic violence against his ex.

When I found this out about him it made me want him more. He is attractive and has an aggressive personality and it makes me fantasise about what he would do to me if I made him angry.

He also says quite violent things like about how he wants to kill his ex and he wishes he’d strangled her when he had the chance because he wouldn’t feel bad about it.

I think he’s a psychopath and he’s definitely abusive towards women but these traits in him just turn me on even more.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago | pl

    The whole dominant/submissive role play you weirdos like doing is the most pathetic thing of all time to me. I’ll never have any patience for weak women that roll over, nor for men who think a weak woman is a prize.

    That being said, not only are you pathetic in your treating towards yourself, you’re also a worthless shit for fetishizing the trauma that another woman went through.

    Where’s your solidarity?
    Shouldn’t you be standing by her (the VICTIM)’s side in never giving this douchebag the time of day?

    You’ve fetishized and ‘okay’ed an innocent woman’s trauma so I’m confiscating your human rights

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    • leggs91200
      4 years ago

      People who are into BDSM do not want to acknowledge that dark facet of the lifestyle - the truly abusive ones.

      Some participants are just "playing" as they have boundaries, safe words, etc.
      Sometimes it is a classic, unscripted ass-whoppin.

      Who knows though, maybe getting seriously injured at the hands of whatever filthy con she is with might be her dream come true.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        I mean the idea of being with a guy who's been convincted before is quite a gray area. But saying any power exchange in bed makes someone a pathetic and worthless shit of a person is very incorrect.

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Half right half moronic

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        I’ll accept that

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Well I agree with you that OP shouldn't be with this crook. But if you think consensual dominant/submissive play to give couples more pleasure in bed is pathetic, that is of utmost idiocy.

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            I do think it’s pathetic.
            If someone won’t even respect themselves how can they expect me to respect them?

            I think kinks and fetishes are a show of weakness, and sluts whether male or female are weak minded.

            You can’t let someone spit in your face and then walk up to me and expect me to treat you as an equal lmfao won’t happen

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Hahaha well thanks for making a fool of yourself. When your argument is somethings as vague and meaningless as its "weak minded", that's a very good sign you have no fucking clue what your talking about.

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            • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
              4 years ago

              "I think kinks and fetishes are a show of weakness, and sluts whether male or female are weak minded."

              I feel sorry for your future husband. He's gonna be neglected in the bedroom.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              Liking BDSM has nothing to do with self respect. I have lots of self respect and high self esteem, I’m just into different things sexually. Also I’m not a slut.

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    • Fugazi,again
      4 years ago

      Amen brother/sister

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    • Clunk42
      4 years ago

      There's nothing wrong with being submissive, but OP is glorifying abuse.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        That dom/sub shit instantly makes me not respect a person at all.

        But maybe I’m overreacting in linking a fetish to glorifying abuse as you said

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        • Clunk42
          4 years ago

          Some people gain sexual pleasure from either being hurt or seeing others in pain. It's not their fault they gain this pleasure, they just do. In these sorts of relationships, many rules and boundaries are set by both sides. If one thinks of something they want to do, they must ask the other party (no matter which side thought of it) and get their permission. It's not "rolling over," it's an agreed to matter. Here are two examples of people not agreeing. The dom decides that they want to try cutting the sub, to which the sub says no, because the sub doesn't want physical cuts on their arms. In another situation, the sub decides they want to be cut, but the dom says no, because they couldn't stand physically cutting another human being's flesh open. Everything in a sub/dom relationship is completely agreed upon, with specific rules for how it is to be done.

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            Yes, I understand what consent is.

            Doesn’t mean I have to interact or respect or service these kinds of people.

            I take who I let around me and my people verrrrry strictly, and deviants are on my no-go list

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            • Clunk42
              4 years ago

              It's just a fetish, dude.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            I with you on this bud. Losing respect from a moron like that bitch is taken as a compliment.

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          • Fugazi,again
            4 years ago

            People also get pleasure from self harm and drug abuse, it doesn't mean they should continue to do it

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      My other reply to one of your comments still pretty much applies here and as for the bit about solidarity with the victim, I've never met her and it's unlikely that I ever will (she has a restraining order on him) so her trauma doesn't have to influence my actions or feelings.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Yuck. What a gross personality you have.
        It doesn’t have to influence you, but it definitely should.

        “It wasn’t me so why should I care?”
        Is a horrendous way to go through life. She’s still your countrymen, and if not even that, she’s your fellow human.

        That should be relation enough.
        I guess no one taught you empathy?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Letting other people’s experiences and feelings influence everything you do and what opinions you have of people is a horrendous way to go through life.

          I’m not a particularly compassionate or empathetic person and I like it that way, it’s the best way to go through life.

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          • XYXY
            4 years ago

            Sounds like the 2 of you deserve each other. Here’s to hoping you make each other miserable for a very long time

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          • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
            4 years ago

            Its normal, I think a lot of people are attracted to that type of personality. I find women who are killers really hot. I like evil women. I wouldn't want to move in with them tho I'd just want to hook up. Moving in with them sounds like it could end badly.

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            If “the best way to go through life” means getting your teeth knocked out and your future daughter/niece punched in the gut then sure.

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    He's not a psychopath. He's just really stupid. Psychopathss do not act like this.
    And your weird for wanting this dirtbag.

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  • Fugazi,again
    4 years ago

    You'd love my cousin, he dragged his girlfriend down the stairs and headbutted her yesterday. Lovely guy

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Words cannot express how truly moronic you are.

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  • Cliche1234
    4 years ago

    Then stop fantasizing now and just tell him to kill you for real ASAP, dumbass. He would've really enjoy doing such deed towards retard like you.

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    Of course when he DOES start bouncing her head on the sidewalk, she will want everyone to feel sorry for her stupid ass.

    I have no sympathy for women in abusive relationships. They CHOOSE that kind of life. They choose to stay in it.

    It is basically an extreme form of dom/sub.

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    • cockgoblin
      4 years ago

      what an ignorant and privileged way of looking at things

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
      4 years ago

      I think some of them want it too

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  • lordofopinions
    4 years ago

    I think you are putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Do you REALLY want him to beat the crap out of you? Because I can see that happening.

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  • LornaMae
    4 years ago

    Oh well, it could be worse. At least you won't be surprised since you already know what you're in for.

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  • Fionalady
    4 years ago

    It's sick, you should seek a psychologist for your safety. Enabling this kind of behavior is not nice. But honestly if you like this mess maybe you are borderline or a sociopath too, so whatever.

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  • jrikiorikio
    4 years ago

    Umm I think your should try a sub/dom relationship with a different guy. Fantasy and reality are not the same. You would be his next victim or even end up dead.

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  • aidonger
    4 years ago

    shes just vibing

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  • nearwantsyourkids
    4 years ago

    I think it's just a kink. I can totally see why, that is

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  • AaaaaashtonKush
    4 years ago

    I mean sure if you want to get murdered

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  • SomewhereNorth
    4 years ago

    Usually, I'd say call the fucking police, but since I don't know you and he has a criminal record, then I guess just

    Don't die.

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  • myfreakinopinion
    4 years ago

    Are you a good girl?

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  • Mammal-lover
    4 years ago

    I can understand that but as someone who likes guns I cant date another felon

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    That's pretty sick

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  • XYXY
    4 years ago

    You sound really thick so in that much I feel sorry for you. I guess there is one good thing that could come out of this, if he beats you to a pulp and you die, at least he should get a life sentence, and that will mean one less danger on the streets for all women. Seems a pretty excessive way for you to carry out a public service though.

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  • raisinbran
    4 years ago

    Sounds normal, for you to feel that way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    I know a woman intimately who LOVES the idea of dangerous, dominant men. When her husband doesn't scrath that itche she seeks it out with other guys.
    Healthy? No.
    Notmal? yes.

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