It's complicated... i'm in a relationship with someone i never met.

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I'll try to make this as easy to understand as I can...

So there is this girl i met on the internet a year ago, and ever since i saw her and chatted to her, i knew i was in love. She was dating someone at the time, but she said she had feelings for me. So recently things ended between them, so she was single, and I asked her if we could be together. She said yes, but then two days later, she posted on facebook that she was in a relationship with someone else! I've asked her today if they were, and if I should just leave her with him, and she told me that she loved me, but is going out with this other guy.

Here's the twist. We've never met in person, however we've spoken and seen each other on webcam many times before, so nothing is awkward.

But why would she say one thing, then do something else?

I've questioned whether it was because we aren't physically together, and whether I should let her take her sexual and physical emotion out on this guy, whilst, as she claims, still loves me.

It's bloody confusing! Help me people of IIN!

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  • Vampgirl
    13 years ago

    Here's my honest opinion: she's just getting off to the fact that she can string you along it's sort of an ego trip for her....drop this girl and get yourself someone who will love you and devote herself to you. The fact that she's seeing other guys already says that she is just not that into you and that's she is only using you for the times that she is feeling lonely and not so self assured, as soon as a guy drops her she runs to you and that builds her self esteem to know that there's someone out there waiting for her...this is very selfish of her! You deserve more!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    She's in Nigeria and wants your credit card numbers.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Just because you talk in cam does not mean you've met the real her.

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  • angelangel
    12 years ago

    dude its all fake fr her!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • poof!gone122
    13 years ago

    wow. what a great relationship. (*cough cough* sarcasm) why do a long distance relationship anyway? obviously it doesn't work because while you two are "together" she's cheating. think about it.

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  • Inspector019
    13 years ago

    Well I'm sure you made a trustworthy connection by having this online emotional affair with her while you were in a committed relationship. Note sarcasm.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Would you be able to tell me her name? This awfully sounds familiar..

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Online relationships aren't real relationships.

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  • Andyailin
    13 years ago

    Forget it thats not gonna work..

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    You must feel quite hurt about this. But anger and bitterness don't come through in your post so you seem like you're dealing with it maturely. It's impossible to know what's actually going on here and I doubt you'll ever find out.

    I went away for a weekend once with a girlfriend and we started off laughing the whole time. On Saturday it was a it subdued and on the way back on Sunday she put her headphones in and didn't look at me or say a word to me. I didn't see her for nine months after that time, and I still don't know what happened. Something you just have to chalk these things up to experience. We're really not meant to understand women completely, and I don't think they'd want us to.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    I think you should find someone in person.

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  • georgienne
    13 years ago

    Yeah, she probably wanted to but then turned to the chance of a physical relationship. I'd forget it and move on.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    long distance relationships can work, but it has to work for both people involved. it's not gonna work if she likes someone other than you. so maybe you should move on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    -sigh- people would rather an actual relationship instead of a computer screen relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    In less you plan on actually meeting her that relationship sounds decidedly pointless, and destined to fail, in my opinion. Also it doesn't really sound like she loves you back if she's going out with another guy. She might be telling him the same thing.

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