It it normal to have a fear of being autistic and not knowing it?

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I don't know, I just have a fear that I may be autistic without knowing it. Everyone treats me nice. Girls treat me nice also, and many of my friends are good looking and sociable. I have a wide range of friends however.

I can be pretty awkward sometimes,
I have never had a girlfriend because I am friendzoned by everyone. I have kissed girls, hooked up with a few, danced with some, but I have never had sex. Most of the girls I am friends with are really attractive, and some not as attractive. I get friendzoned by all of them, even the ones that I consider myself better than. The most attractive girl from my highschool has always been friends with me, but that's all I'll ever be to her. People always treat me like a little kid, and it is really annoying.

I often wonder if I am autistic and if people are friends with me just because. I go to parties with my friends, I have done alcohol and weed with my friends too. The rare times I have gotten high, I got really self-conscious and aware of everything, so that is where the thought of being autistic started.

I'm in the 4th best college in my state, and I wonder if I was let in because of something like autism.

I keep thinking about it, and I am too scared to ask someone if I am autistic. I just want to know.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    If you have to ask you most likely are not autistic. My cousin has high functioning aspergers and it is very apparent in his behavior. I think you are just being paranoid.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    "I have kissed girls, hooked up with a few, danced with some"

    You danced with girls and you dare think you have Asperger?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Wow, can you read? If you can, find a dictionary and read up on autism a bit. Maybe you could answer your own question.
    Stupid maybe; autistic, unlikely.

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  • squirrelgirl
    10 years ago

    My brother worries about the same thing. He cares a lot about how he is viewed by other people and often worries that there is this huge conspiracy between all my family and his friends to keep him from knowing he's actually autistic. He always says things like, "If anything I'm doing is weird/abnormal, you guys would tell me, right?"

    Honestly, as an autistic person myself, I find it slightly insulting that people think it's such a horrible condition that they develop paranoia over whether or not they have it. As if having it would make them any less of a person...

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    It's a bit paranoid.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    You don't sound autistic. It would be extremely difficult for an autistic person to kiss someone of the opposite gender, drink alcohol, or smoke weed

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I don't think drinking and smoking is a very difficult task for anyone.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I agree. I think it is ridiculous how misinformed some people are about autism or asperger's syndrome. They can do pretty much anything everyone else can. The only difference is that sufferers do not pick up on common social cues like someone who isn't somewhere on the autism spectrum. My cousin is an aspie. The only way someone would find him a bit off would be when he starts laughing at things that are not the types of things people usually laugh at. He also avoids eye contact like the plague. He has trouble expressing certain emotions as well, but other than that he functions just as good or better than a lot of people.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    10 years ago

    I used to worry I had autism. I was often put in smaller classes, some of the children in which were clearly a little odd, teachers seemed too nice to me and other children told me I was weird

    I was then put in a very small secondary school where, due to my extreme social awkwardness, people asked me if I had it.

    It turns out even I don't have it, so if the main reasons you think you do are that you haven't had sex or a girlfriend (which isn't that unusual) I think you are most likely being a bit paranoid.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    They would have told you if you were autistic. You don't just suddenly become autistic and they don't tell you. You do sound like you have a paranoid delusion. Which might be associated with other mental illness but no you do not sound autistic and from the sounds of it you have no idea what autistic really is.

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      http://psychcentral.com/encyclopedia/2008/paranoid-delusion/

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    I've felt like that before - not necessarily autism but certainly some mental condition. Then my parents finally told me that I had been diagnosed with something as a kid and it made a lot more sense then.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have asperger's which is similar to high functioning autism. I'm not sure if people can tell or not but I have been told often that I'm weird. Most people know very little about autism and it is unlikely that people are keeping a "secret" from you, although it is possible they may just think you're weird, which isn't a bad thing. Unfortunately autism does make it hard to have sexual relationships and one thing I've noticed myself is I do not know when a girl is into me even when they are and because I am unaware of how I am perceived I overlook the chances I get. You shouldn't overthink the situation though. I embrace my odd qualities and like being different. I'm definitely not boring.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Are you another one of those self proclaimed or self diagnosed aspergers people. I have been seeing more and more of that recently. I mean no offense.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        No, I'm officially diagnosed. I actually didn't know what it was until they diagnosed me.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          It seems like a lot of people who have social anxiety or who are just plain weird jump the gun and consider themselves autistic or aspergers. I think it is ridiculous and offensive to the people who are actually struggling with it in their day to day lives. Some people use it as an excuse for behavior that they can actually control and I find it disgusting.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            I agree. It seems there are a lot of people who self diagnosis on the internet with no idea of what Asperger's is.
            I'm actually quite extraverted but when it comes to understanding non-verbal communication, I have no idea. I don't understand things like what upsets people or why people feel what they do. People are very confusing and illogical to me. One of the reasons I like this website is it gives me insight into how other people think.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              This site has been addicting for me. It is good to use while I am on bed rest.

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        • RoseIsabella
          10 years ago

          I'm just curious, but when did you get your diagnosis?

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            I was diagnosed developmental delayed & adhd when I was 5. It wasn't until I was 21 until they called it aspergers instead of developmental delay.

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