It is normal to want someone to change?

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years (Janurary) and we love each other but sometimes i think 'why am i with him?' Don't get me wrong he makes me smile and laugh and is there for me when i need him and vice versa but he is lazy!
In the two years that we've been together he's never had a job or done anything with his life, he just sponges of his parents, stays out all night, sleeps all day and plays his PS3 the rest of the time. He doesn't have any ambitions or goals in life but i do.
next year i'm hoping for a place at university to study criminology or law and i feel like hes holding me back. I've talked to him about it, not seriously just a few comments here and there but he likes the way he lives, his parents have tried persuading him to sort it out but he dont even listen to them!
I don't want to lose him but i'm sick of him just doing nothing, how do i make him change?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    hahahahahahahahahahahaha

    You and every other female on the planet!!

    This bf will do until Mr Right comes along but make sure you keep your eyes open for him. Go to university and hopefully you will meet him there.

    Do yourself one favour though .... follow your dreams and do NOT ever attempt to drag him along with you!! Not to your university functions etc. When you move on he will get over it, he may not even notice if there's a new PS3 game out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Tell him about your goals and pretend to leave him. Who knows a heartbreak is probably what he needs to get him off the couch.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Sorry to state the obvious, but no-one can change anyone else, so don't bother trying.

    Do what you need to do with your life and maybe he'll come along with you or maybe he won't, it's up to him

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  • vagman30
    10 years ago

    Here's what you should do: Leave him. Plain and simple. No matter how much you want him to change, it will not happen and you will only be causing yourself unnecessary pain. It may be hard, but it will be for the best. You can't force someone to change. Just let nature take its course and he'll change on his own.

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