It is normal that my bf masturbates over big women when i am petite?

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I am a size eight white girl, quite petite and small in frame, i have a normal size bust (B-C cup).

I have recently discovered that my partner of three years masturbates over very very large asian or african women (with HUGE HUGE boobs nearly down to there knees).

These women are extremely unattractive facially (as women sometimes are in porn, i get that, men are looking at the bodies not necessarily the faces), they do have very big busts but also very very overweight bodies, covered in cellulite.

This has made me feel really unattractive and inadequate in every way as they seem to be the complete opposite to me - different colour skin, different size boobds, different bums, much bigger all over. Strangely enough he has always encouraged me to wear make up, look good and wear tight clothes to show off my figure, I just dont get it.

We have been together for three years and up until i discovered this porn we have had a great, very active sex life.

I dont know how to react to this finding or what it means, it makes me feel a bit stupid and a bit sick but i do not know if I am over reacting, should I be putting on weight or what????

Would really appreciate some honest answers on this, especailly some mens perspectives,

Thanks x

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  • Lula
    12 years ago

    Yes and No

    If you want to put on weight, do so because you want to. Y

    You could surprise him, put on 10 to 20 pounds and see if he like that. This is a little weight that you could take off. Do not gain a lot of weight for any guy in a short time

    When I met my husband I was a size 9
    After ten years of marriage I was a size 22
    You see, he also like heavy women, but feel in love with me. He did not tell me to put on weight, I just never realized it. He was happy, he took me to my first plus size store an he went shopping with me. I can tell you the bigger I got, the more he was into me, the better sex. Most of the weight came after marriage

    The importnat thing is you need to be okay
    People who put on 50 to 100 pounds to please a men in a short time is nuts. For a guy you are dating is nuts.

    You may like the way you look better with a few pounds. I am not talking a lot of weight

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  • darkmagneto
    13 years ago

    People, espcially guys, can get aroused by a wide variety of body features. More than they're willing to admit sometimes. Don't worry about it, because there's a reason that he's chosen you as his girlfriend. Only be worried if he seems to enjoy porn more than having sex with you.

    It may seem contrary, but porn generally has very little bearing on how a guy feels about his girlfriend. Men are biologically programmed to have orgasms regularly(the fresher the sperm, the healthier the sperm), and since we live quite different lives than our ancient ancestors, men resort to masturbation and porn. We like porn because it's a part of how we work. Don't be offended if your man enjoys a little variety in his porn.

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  • Cosmicgiggle
    13 years ago

    It's just a fettish (we all have them, and most masturbate alone over them, if possible). But, as his partner, as is the case with any, it's not possible to satisfy every fetish. It has nothing to do with you being right or wrong or not doing enough. See it as his personal time... As long as it isn't all the time

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  • jojobinx
    14 years ago

    Are they fat obese women or thick anion booty
    Women cuz lots of guys like big girls I myself
    Do too don't change cuz there's probably nothing
    Wrong with you but its just that big girls don't
    Really seem to be out there as sexy,its always the petite
    Women so if the porn is finally showing big girls
    Loys of Guys are gonna want to go and see cuz of
    The intrest and wonder of how a big girl looks nude.

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  • codhubiv
    14 years ago

    Looks like a BBW fetish. Porn isn't reality, he's just getting a bit of variation.

    Everyone loves a nice massive pair of hooters, although not many people want a BBW girlfriend.

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    • melanie121
      14 years ago

      thank you, thats very helpful of you, cheers x

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