It is normal that i feel romantic relationships are overrated

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Don't get me wrong, love and attraction is nice and all. However, I've found that I can be totally attracted to a person and the can make me ecstatic/happy but as soon as someone is playing games it seriously depletes my attraction to a person. Even when things are going smooth and evrything is good that super content feelings with butterflies and such don't seem to last beyond the sexual chemistry. Like, do I want to find love ? Sure why not. But i feel as though I can easily find fulfillment in myself and through the love of my friends and family. I feel I would much rather enjoy a friend, or two, with benefits. Even the idea of someone chasing me and being clingy does not excite me. I'm 23(in ten days anyway) and I've had my share of heartache but now thinking back I wonder how the hell these people ever broke my heart. I mean, "jeez" I tell myself "they're just people. "
Not to brag but I am pretty "smooth" with romance and can make someone chase me, but it simply doesn't excite me anymore. Romance does not feel important as sexual chemistry and friends anymore.. Is this normal? Will these feelings change in time? I'm fine either way but I just find it odd that as someone who used to be a total hopeless romantic I just don't fancy it all that much anymore

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  • GUP1234
    8 years ago

    Totally normal. Most people I know have gone through phases of both extremes. We're constantly evolving physically & emotionally, especially before 25 years old. Just go with the flow & do what feels right for you.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    You're fine.

    Living for ourselves and creating our own happiness, along with valuing our friends and family are what we should be doing in the first place.

    Even though you're meh about it, it's good you're like this, because it decreases the chance of you mistaking admiration or lust for love.

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    • michelle2451
      8 years ago

      Say, thanks :)
      Maybe I just haven't found someone great for me yet. I completely agree with you

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