It is normal that i am jealous even if i dont love him anymore?

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Hey everyone! I am 22 years old.
I was in a relationship with a guy who has 20 years old. Anyway I broke up with him, because he is not really my type, I liked him for a while but then I realized that i am oldest than him, and he is thinking about going to another country next year.. So the point is i am no longer with him. And I dont love him at all. I feel nothing about him.
BUUUT when I see him with a girl even a friend, I become crazy, sooo jealous and depressed, sometimes I cry. I cant stand see him with another girl. I cant. That kills me.

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago | pl

    Its normal in a cunty way, you dont want him but you dont want him to be with anyone. You're jealous that he moved on and your outcome for him didnt go like you wanted. As soon as you find someone you wont care but since he found someone first it makes you a jealous cunt

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    • driedroses
      10 years ago

      What he said.

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  • 6007
    10 years ago

    Yes! That is very normal. Females are notorious for acting/feeling "crazy". You're totally fine. I've felt like this. You left him because he wasn't a right fit for you, when you do find someone who is, these "jealous" "possessive" feelings will fade almost instantly. You'll be left wondering why you stressed over such a guy. You're fine :) Try to put a little more focus on yourself now that you're newly single, do stuff you enjoy and for now, seize all communications with this guy. It's just better for your emotional well being.

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    • monaliza7000
      10 years ago

      Thank you so much :)

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    • andiforoncedonthatehumans
      10 years ago

      Ha! i find it funny how the guy supposed to be the bad guy while the sad cunt feels jealous because he is doing fine.

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      • 6007
        10 years ago

        That's not what it is? There's more to it than that. It's emotional distress that takes a toll on a person. She isn't blaming him or wishing him a bad life. Jealousy, for the most part, is a personal thing to overcome.

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  • AtomicCollider
    10 years ago

    "I liked him for a while but then I realized that i am oldest than him, and he is thinking about going to another country next year.."

    This shouldn't determine your love for him so you should have left it as "he is not really my type".

    If you're jealous, then it is most likely you're not completely over him yet even though you think you are.

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    • monaliza7000
      10 years ago

      I dont know. Well, to be completely honest, he is younger than me and he is from another country and black. And people in my school found our relationship strange. Racism still exist in the world. And people looks down on me because i go out with a black africain. You will tell me that I shoudnt care about people, but you know that is very hard no to care. And the second reason is that he dont deserve too much to be with him. I am doing my best, and he is thinking about going to an another country next year.

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      • AtomicCollider
        10 years ago

        I'm black and I'm currently dating a Chinese girl so I know all about the racism going around. The funny thing is that my girlfriend wants to go to another school so we're in a somewhat similar situation. I still love her much and it doesn't matter where she goes. I understand it's hard to not care about what other people think, but think about this: 'What's more important? Your heart or other people's judgements/opinions?'

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        • monaliza7000
          10 years ago

          But if only he deserves that. While i am doing my best to make our relationship better, he ruins everything and he doesnt even care. He knows that i am fucking cray jealous person and he is doing things that I really hate. I just want him not to do this things in front of me.. because it really hurts me when i see him with another girl. Should I tell him that?

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          • AtomicCollider
            10 years ago

            Yes! Communication is very important in relationships. If you don't tell him your feelings, he will continue to do what he does.

            Now if he continues to do what he does afterwards, then you deserve a better person. You will have to let him go because he isn't your type or else you will just keep getting hurt. It happened to me so I know.

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  • funkedup
    10 years ago

    I think this is pretty normal, especially if it's one of your first physical relationships. I had the same, and it will pass. It also gets easier with future relationships.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    "a guy who has 20 years old"

    "i am oldest than him"

    Twenty two years old America, twenty two.

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    • JadedUnknown
      10 years ago

      This OP could be foreign to the English language...

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        English is the first language of most everybody on this site. It's just used as a perfect excuse by many for being dumb.

        You can deduce that this is a moron due to the structure, the z's also scream "American!"

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        • monaliza7000
          10 years ago

          My first language is Arabic, and my second language is French. I am trying my best to improve my English. I am really sorry if I made so many mistakes :)

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Bullshit x100

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