Isitnormal that i'm in a relationship but i hv a huge crush on someone

It's normal. That's what happens. I've been in a serious relationship for 6 years and I get "crushes" all the time. They're just fantasies of what could be, that's all. If you broke up with your girlfriend and got with this girl you have a crush on then you'd be having these thoughts about a different girl after a year or two. It's natural. Don't listen to Serene who is saying it's "disgusting" and that you're mentally cheating. There's no such thing as mentally cheating. Serene is obviously just a weak girl with no self esteem full of jealousy and anger. Don't worry, you're normal.

If you love your girlfriend and want to be with her forever then just do not act on your "crush".

If you're not willing to lose your gf then you need to lose the crush. Start avoiding her and get her out of your mind.

It's normal. It happened to me twice, so I told my boyfriend about the problem..of me somehow liking someone, and it really sucks to have feelings pull at your heartstrings.. He told me that he'd help me get over that person and that before I "cheat" or develop a crush, I should tell him and we would do something about it and strengthen our love. Try meeting up with your girlfriend..doing stuff like going out for dates, making sweet love or doing those cute things that gave you fuzzy feelings when you first started dating. or distance yourself from the crush.. I plan on staying with my soul mate :) so you should too. Tell your girlfriend. If she loves you, she'll understand and you guys can get rid of the problem. Best wishes <3

Yea i think it's time for you to get a hold off yourself and realize the love you have for your gf. I mean this new girl is there for just a moment in your life. But your gf has been through everything with you. Getting through college years together and still making it with complete trust. Is an amazing thing. So before you screw up something great. Keep your emotions to yourself.

Dude fanatasies are good, especailly about un obtainable people, but trust me been there went the whole way and wasnt worth it the grass wasnt greener, mind you once you do it your sex life with your GF will pick up :-)

me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and a bit. i had a couple crushes, to be honest. just guys who were really nice and easy to talk to. you just gotta not do anything with this girl and stop talking to her, probably. try to avoid seeing her and stuff at all costs. the crush will go away.

i don't know if its normal... I happened to like someone while in a relationship once but wasn't anything worth even mentioning, as at the same time liked and love my gf so much more than just a "nice chick this one". Was more like, if i wasn't with my current this one could be a candidate :)

Time to breakup.

I have the exact same problem. I've been with my bf for 3 and a half years and I love him more than anything but I have a slight crush on a guy who I've known for a few years and he has always had a crush on me but recently we have been talking more than friends should. I haven't cheated or anything but I am sooo tempted to give in. It sucks to have two people you want to keep in your life

I agree on talking to your gf. Trust and honesty is very important in relationships. If you really do love her, then you'll do almost anything to fix it. People aren't perfect. Liking someone else is only human. I hope things are better for you!

You get these feelings, fine, its normal everyone does mentally. However do NOT let it get in the way of youur relationship. Morals and caring need to win the battle with your dick... to put it bluntly.

Well, I didn't fantasize. I just started to freak out and crush on. Don't give in to temptation :D

Unless your girlfriend is unusually accommodating, if you aren't willing to lose her, then you must not act on your feelings. As far as I am concerned there is no such thing as mental cheating. Your fantasies are your own and do no harm to anyone.

If you are losing interest in sex with your girlfriend, that is a problem. If you haven't been getting any, it is a problem you need to work out together. Be the best partner you can be and if that doesn't work, then you should bring it (the lack of sex) up with her (though don't mention the crush).

If you truly give it a go and it doesn't work, then the best thing you can do is break it off. Then you would be free to do whatever with this other girl.

whatever you want to do...if you think about this other girl so much, either break up w/ your gf, or stay w/ her but don't act on your feelings toward your crush.

they say when you have a long term over time that person becomes less and less attractive and sexually stimulating. i wouldnt take it as far as these others and break up. you need to sit down do some serous thinking every guy fantasies i did it all the time in my four year relationship. its just a bad habit we have.

That's what happens in long term relationships. It is natural to fantasize. Most people get confused and break up with someone because they think they don't love he person they are with but are just bored. Try taking a break and tell your gf you need to evaluate your life a little bit but you still love her before the relationship gets serious.

Disregard what everyone says about the whole fantasy thing, these people don't know the true meaning of faith. It is wrong to have a crush in a relationship, tell your partner so you two can talk about what is the best direction to go. You should not fantasize about other people if you do indeed love another person. Th idea that everyone lusts after each other is an uprising trend from the trash on TV. I am an 18 year old male, with plenty of confidence in myself and my relationship. I'm not a religious person either, I just know right from wrong. You don't love another person if you want to be with another person, don't follow society today, it's all very corrupt and addicted to sex.

If you really love someone you will not fantisize about someone else, or want to make love to someone else. I'm sorry, that's not love.

Well you're definitely not gonna spend your whole life with your girlfriend if already you are fantasizing about another girl..

Dude, that's what happens in a relationship. you just got to make up your mind, do you wunna stay with her. or move on to a different relation

there is a difference between fantasies and having feelings for someone else. in my experience, you cant really be friends with someone of the opposite sex if you are in a serious relationship. it causes friction, jealousy and mixed feelings which is what you are having now. i suggest you make a choice between your friend who you fantasise about or your girlfriend who you claim to be your soulmate.

you haven't be getting any?!?

Spike, U mad? U jelly?

Grow up kid.