Is your situation similar to mine?

Over my childhood, I had to suffer countless traumatic experiences which led me to be reclusive for most of my adult life. Growing up I was ridiculed for my skin color, being ugly, being too skinny, not being from around that place; you name it. When I finally got out of that place and moved to the U.S., I fell in love for the first time. For circumstances too complicated to explain here, I lost someone I grew to care about. My life was miserable before then, but once I lost that little bit of light in my life it broke me for the very first time. I would come to lose another after a long period of healing which led me to be devastated and what feels irreparable. I feel my thought muffled, sometimes making it hard to be coherent and sound. I suspect much of this post will have that same incoherence as well. For a long time, I just wanted my past pains to go away, to forget everything or just go to sleep, I wanted to feel empty rather than so much self-loathing and misery. I'll be 24 this year, I am still a virgin feeling unfulfilled in every aspect. I will re-enter college this fall to at least forgive myself for not taking advantage of my youth in regards to creating a carrier for myself, it is the very last hope I have in my life. I find myself waking up at 5 am without knowing why wishing that the sleep I just woke up from was to be my final. Most of my days now have become uneventful, I try to keep my mind busy so that I don't remember what I regard as my failures. I am in so much pain that numbness is all I can hope for at the moment. I found that certain types of music soothe me into that numb state, so I try to always listen to them whenever am not working. I've convinced myself girls are just a figment of my imagination and I look the other way whenever I see one. Sometimes when by chance I surf online and see the picture of one, I look away as fast as I can reminding and repeating to myself that they are not real. I am starting to believe that I am slowly descending into madness or that perhaps I am already there. I am way past self-preservation and the only quality I have left is that I don't want to hurt anyone but myself. I also distance myself for that very same reason, because I see myself as a disease that will inevitably hurt others, in my eyes, I protect them rather than myself.

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Comments ( 18 )
  • Indigo1

    pro tip: people don't like walls of text

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    • Hyakume

      Then don't read it. it's not even that long.

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      • Indigo1

        You're right, it's not that long. Something about just straight brick walls of text are off putting though. I'm certainly guilty of it too from time to time, so no harm!

        I just wanted to let you know, because for whatever reason way more people will usually read your post if you space it out a bit or use paragraphs.

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  • palehorse

    Paragraphs, please.

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    • Hyakume

      Would you like me to put it in MLA format too?

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      • palehorse

        I would like it to be reasonably coherent.

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  • Ellenna

    I have no idea because I can't be bothered reading that long long loooooooooooooong paragraph

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    • Hyakume

      Then don't read it. nobody is putting a knife to your throat.

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      • curious-bunny

        Considering how much constructive criticism your getting you should listen. Walls if text equal I'm not bothering.

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        • Hyakume

          "constructive criticism". Listen here buddy, I opened my heart out writing this all I see you guys ic complaining about paragraphs. perhaps, before criticism, you should care about other's feelings instead of being some sort of grammar nazi. when an essay is due and I'll have to submit it to my professor, I'll ask your opinion about writing.

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          • curious-bunny

            That's what constructive crictism is. Something to point out that should he corrected for others to tolerate it better. Ie in your case adding a few if those being arrow keys that cause large gaps between words. Otherwise known as an enter key

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            • Hyakume

              I am not even going to dignify you a proper response with that patronizing tone. I cared to be listened to and have an opinion, not a grammar lesson. if you want to give one, I am sure there are plenty of sites for that in which people would actually appreciate it.

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  • Ya still really young! You need to change how YOU think and see yourself. We really are our own worst enemies. When them winds of shit start blowing, keep on breathing, it smells bad, but nothing last forever.

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  • ToffeeMe

    Hey there! Dont be so sad.. Just understand that life is full of pain, there is pain and struggles and hardships every.. we actually all have gone through rejection, even I just had it this month cause my 5 years bf broke up with me just because he gets fed up with me, rejection. So look.. we can do nothing if people around us doesn't like us, we can never please anybody. And so make those memories and experiences wether its bad or good as reason your inspiration to move forward stronger and bolder

    We can be friends, Im girl, asian. dont worry too much. Smile

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  • soleyman_the_magnificent

    I kind of used to be like you. It gets better. Best advice I can give is don't care so much about what other people think, male or female. I'm not telling you to be a raging @$$hole. I mean, be friendly and cordial toward people.

    Get in the habit of smiling and saying "good morning" to total strangers. Sometimes they reciprocate, sometimes they don't, but I've found it's a good way of getting over social anxiety.

    Self-confidence comes with practice and experience. Stand your ground for the important things, but pick your battles. Also, don't personalize everything. It gave me a great sense of relief when I came to the realization that when things didn't always go my way, or people were critical of me or my work, that it wasn't always a personal attack or insult. Sometimes it's just because of their own experiences and prejudices.

    Finding your self-confidence will do wonders for your social life, both with platonic friends as well as romantic interests. Hope this helps.

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  • soniiiety

    its alright dude, look I am a male and virgin, I think its great to be virgin well you can, oh remember not to fornicate, you should be married if you ever decide to get a new gf in the future.

    also you are not alone, there are people online and in real life wheo support and care for you.

    I am one of those people who can talk to you.

    I used to see my life as a failure or things would not get better.

    DO NOT LOOSE HOPE, you have alot of potential, what has happened to you has happened for a reason, to teach you a lesson of life.

    it might or might not be bad.

    tho you still have alot to hope in. you can be powerful,, you can be wise and have knowledge that others want.

    please don't suicide and murder yourself, you are important, everyone can be important and special if they want too!.

    its not hard either.

    if you decide to respond and talk, I can give you some advice and things that will bring you up to super saiyan level.

    you feel like super man, that you can do anything.

    once you know what I am talking about, no evil, no emotions, no people, nothing can stop you.

    to have a hope,goals,determination,peace and love.

    giver is better than receiving.

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