Is what my step dad did to me when i was little normal?

After my mom and dad divorced when I was around six years old, my mother immediately remarried. That summer my older sister, my mom, my step dad, and I went up to spend a few weeks in our summer cottage. One day my sister and my mom went to run some errands and I was left alone with my stepfather. It was all going pretty well until he turned off the movie we were watching and turned to face me on our couch. He started talking to me in a way that made me very uncomfortable. He was telling me he knew that I was a 'very sexual being' and that 'sometimes I want to bend you over my knee and spank you, but other times I want to take you into my bedroom and make love to you'. I was only 6 years old, so I didn't know what those words meant until years later. However, my instincts were telling me that something was definitely wrong. I cried and cried to call mom, asking when she would get home. I just wanted her to get home.

About a year later my younger sister was brought into the world by my mom and my step dad. After she was born everything was different, and instead of words, he started to use his hands. The first time I can recall him touching me was when I was 8. I had had a nightmare the night before, so I'd climbed into bed with him and my mom. Because my mother was the breadwinner of the family at the time, she had left for work early that morning leaving me sleeping next to him in the bed.The next morning I woke up to him staring at me in a way that sent a warning through my body. He started rubbing my thigh and asked if he could touch my privates. When I laughed nervously and said no, he asked if he could at least just see them. Scared, I jumped off the bed and ran to my room. That day after I got home from school all the doors were locked and no matter how hard I pounded on them and screeched that I HAD to go to the bathroom, he wouldn't let me in. So, I pissed myself on our front steps at seven years old. I was mortified, and I realize now that he was punishing me for refusing him.

For years after the incidents the touching would waver, he would feel up my thighs and my back side, even after I made it very clear to him that I was not okay with the situation. I know that what he did to me was wrong but he never put his fingers inside me or raped me so would he even be held responsible for doing the things he did to me in a court of law? Does it even count as molestation? What is your take on this?