Is what happened during a sleepover at my friends house normal?

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well, im a 19 year old man(bi), my best friend is 21(straight) i guess he has been in relationships.

basically 4 days ago i went shopping with my friends then we went back home to his house to relax, all of us went to take a nap/

i went over to sleep next to my best friend (we argued and didnt talk for 3 weeks but we made up) i put my hand over his stomach and rested my head on his back (his back was infront of me)(i hugged him)i wasnt able to sleep so relaxed and fake sleeped and had my eyes closed the whole time i didnt know if he slept tho, he shortly put his palm on top of mine and held my hand tightly and kept me close to him, then he put both his feet on top of mine (basically foot hugging like my leg slipped into his and both of his legs hugged it)... then he turned his face to mine...his face was a bit far but he kept positioning his face close to mine as if he wanted to kiss me, his lips were a very few inches away from mine i could almost say he kissed me but he didnt, my heart was beating like a humming bird...he stayed like that for a few minutes then he turned his back at me then slept...10 mins later he woke up...i woke up like 10 mins later...from that moment on he started becoming strange afterwards...like he doesnt look me in the eye as much and doesnt answer me quite often/look at me...whe used to talk normally and he used to look at me in the eye, but after this incident idk what happened, was he awake? did he know i was awake? did he want to kiss me? does he love/want me? is he gay? is he shy about what happened? he did all the moves i didnt do anything and i talk to him and look at him normally as if i was sleeping and nothing happened...i need help, thanks

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  • Jessie735513
    12 years ago

    I think he's confused about his feelings for you: moreso because he may find if hard coming to terms with his sexuality. I recommend talking to him; ask why he's been acting funny since your moment together.
    He's probably confused and that may make him snappy and closed off from his surroundings, but what you had there sounded intimate and he wouldn't have let it happen if he didn't feel some attraction for you.
    Just take it easy~don't push him for answers and always be ready to talk~~good luck. :)

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  • riley1
    12 years ago

    Take another nap with him and if he acts like that again u go in for the kiss...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Gay much?

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  • Coletta
    12 years ago

    well it is kinda strange that you would nap like that with your male friend. I think that you both need to be honest with each other about your feelings. You 2 seem like you might have a thing that is more that just friendship. It happens

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  • kit-kat-bar
    12 years ago

    dont let yourself be his experiment , tell him how you feel, id be like wtheck, dont play with my emotions like that, ooorrr you could just keep your cool and observe his abnormal behavior.

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  • Heh?
    12 years ago

    I believe honesty is essential for a healthy relationship.

    Tell him about what you saw, that you were fully awake, and how it made your heart go pitter-patter.

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago

    I just think the fact u went an 'napped' together is not normal! Sorry just had to say that.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Well, now your about 22 years old. You know by now just exactly what your orientation is by now. Also, you know if your friend is part of that orientation.
    Hopefully, you have the answer that you want. Wish you well. Glad to read your situation. Thanks for sharing.

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  • Ridiculist
    10 years ago

    In some cultures napping and holding hands with your guy pal is normal and isn't a come on... However, this guy likes you. Legit. He's obviously feeling something for you... Maybe just take your time but I'd say you should talk to him.

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  • Justaguy101
    12 years ago

    i can only speak for myself and my personallity, but if it was me would flirt with him in a playing around 'am i joking or am i serious' manner, wink and give sexy eyes, tell him what you want to do to him but use it accordingly at the right moment, tell him 'i can't wait to get you into bed tonight' play with it..dont take it too serious..don't act like its a serious relationship or falling in love thing it will scare the hell out of him...make it fun! reassure him its ok, its not serious if he doesnt want it to be...

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  • IceRico24
    12 years ago

    My mom thinks its extremely innapropriate for two girls to sleep i the same bed together... So maybe this guy was responding to your feelings for him, experimenting?

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  • adhdkit
    12 years ago

    hey buddy. just talk it out with him hes obviously either closeted or confused about what happened. sit him down and talk civilly about it, and be understanding and patient, too. and best of luck to you!!

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  • danooyl
    12 years ago

    You're thinking too much. Lessen the paranoia

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    Maybe this is too simple but would just asking him work?

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  • asura
    12 years ago

    Waits for it.....

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  • daniel411
    12 years ago

    guys i need help please :( im so confused and i cant help but think about what happened, i need answers and help, what should i do? thanks.

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