Is throwing hints about your sex life a way of seeming more attractiv?

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I've been told by a friend (we are both male) that when he talks to women he makes a point of talking to them about his sex life, or not even necesarilly sex, but mentioning that he goes out with girls. In a friendly kind of way, maybe just throwing hints now an then. Like "I was dating this girl..." "my ex used to like that band.." "my exe's friend..." "I was afraid the girl I was going out with got pregnant, she told me she was late"
(And female friends have told me they don't think he's actually that good looking)
He says it's a way of making yourself more desirable, because you are making a point that there are already girls out there who have found you desirable enough to be your gf or to have sex with you.
It makes a lot of sense, but, do people really take the trouble to "casually" mention those facts to get in the girl's head? Have you tried it? Is it worth it?

Of course, and it works! 6
He's crazy, that's just stupid. 14
I wouldn't take the trouble. 3
Stop writing this stuff, women will read it. 2
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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago | pl

    When a dude mentions his sex life when he flirts with me, he suddenly becomes less desirable to me. Then again I'm awkward as shit with dudes. lol

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Oh, i see your point but this is different. I mean the kind of friendly chatting just like between friends.
      I know what you mean because a female friend explained it to me. She met a guy who started telling her intimate details about his sexlife with his ex on the first date and it was a complete turn off for her. Said that was unnecessary because they weren't friends yet.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    I don´t mind talking about guys past, but if he´s trying to hit on me and attempt to make me feel as if he is very desirable and got a lot of options- I´m out.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Any time someone throws out hints like this, it's usually pretty obvious what they're doing. It's a thinly-veiled attempt to big yourself up.

    That said, if you do it naturally and it just slips into the conversation, it may help a little. Just to let your date know that other women have found you attractive...so you can't be all that bad. (Cos that's basically what you're doing).
    So your friend's probably got a point, but it can easily backfire if you overdo it, or if you're not-so-subtle. Then you'll just seem insecure. Women can be pretty perceptive, imo.
    That's just my male perspective, and I haven't dated in a long time so..take it for what it's worth.

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    • TrustMeImLying
      8 years ago

      Completely agree with how it's usually pretty obvious.

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      • victorygin
        8 years ago

        Yeh, for sure.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    I'm probably jumping the gun but I feel it's a reflection of insecurity. Some women sort of do something similar, except in their case it's dropping hints that they've been with less guys than they actually have (or hiding that fact). I had one coworker who kept up lie for months that she didnt have a bf. I remember asking my sister why and she said it was probably because she wanted to string me along just in case. A normal person would be repulsed, and I was in a way, but part of me was thoroughly intrigued by the psyche of such a person.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    8 years ago

    Definitely not for me but to each his own.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Your friend sounds like a crass, rather pitiable creature, if he thinks women appreciate this sort of behavior.
    He may be a great friend, but I wouldn't take dating advice from him, even if he was the last male on earth.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Wow, I didn't see it that way. Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.

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