Is this social anxiety or something else?

(asking this again...)

I've always been a spontaneous, random, happy person, and as a kid, I never cared what others thought. As I began to get older, though, I started getting very insecure, self-conscious, paranoid, and very nervous with some situations (something just as simple as getting up from a table to throw away something/write something down in front of the class on the board/speak aloud/walk alone to lunch/eat alone.) And as a child I was naturally optimistic and very extroverted, but now as I've grown, I've became pessimistic and more introverted than extroverted.

When faced with certain social situations, I can get very panicky to the point that I'll tremble and feel extremely scared/uncomfortable, it can sometimes get so bad that I can't comprehend things correctly. I miss out on things too because of this.

I'm also have a phobia of being criticized/being judged, so I often don't approach strangers unless I have to or something about them is interesting.

Whenever I am alone without people I'm comfortable with, I feel as if people are hating on me and talking bad about me, I also imagine that something bad or embarrassing will happen to me while Im alone in public.

On the other hand, when I'm all alone, I have so much fun and its like Im in my element. I spend my entire day shut into my room because I feel alot better that way.

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  • Mersaphe

    I don't think this is so much social anxiety as it is low self esteem and insecurity. The fact that you are not comfortable with yourself manifests itself in how awkward you feel in social situations. There's nothing wrong with enjoying alone time and being happy pursuing your hobbies, passions, and interests, but it starts to become an issue when you avoid people because you feel that they judge you. My advice is learn to love yourself. If you can't like who you are, you shouldn't expect others to like you either.

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  • VirgilManly

    I'm not a psychologist but it sounds like social anxiety.

    I have/had it. If you need to, go to a therapist or at least talk to your general practitioner. They can help steer you in the direction you may need to go in order to overcome it. Maybe with medication, maybe just talking to a therapist, or maybe both.

    Good luck.

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  • cbaxley

    It is introversion. There is a certain social anxiety that comes with it. A large part of the population has introversion and thinks there is something wrong because extroversion is celebrated in our society.

    There is not necessarily something wrong.

    You could practice being around small groups to get comfortable with the uncomfortable feeling. Doing this enough may have it go away.

    Also as suggested practice a positive self talk to offset the constant negative self talk. (It is just as likely that something good will happen as something bad)

    So "I won't win" becomes "I will win" and "They won't like me" becomes "They will like me"

    Exact opposites work best.

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  • agoodlovejoy

    Practice talking to God and the Angels and ask Them to create in You a new heart. You will be made whole again.

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