Is this relationship going to work?

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I'm in love with this woman. She's in love with me too. Totally. But the problem is, I'm not ready to commit, I'm not ready for some serious relationship. It's not because I don't love her, I love her with all my heart but, it's more like I'm not ready.

We sort of often argue, and we argue because I can't stand her ex wanted her back, and so do my ex. There was a time, I screwed her birthday just cos I was jealous her ex was there on her day. It shows I'm not ready for relationship no? I need time to take this seriously. But she doesn't want to wait.

I love her so much. Because I'm not ready to take this relation to relationship, she said I actually don't love her. And so many times, wanted to leave me and telling herself this is over and she wanted to move on. But I keep making her come back, cos I really love her.

Am I selfish? Should I just let her go and set her free? But it's really hard for me to forget her.

I seriously have no idea.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    She's right - you do not BEHAVE like you love her no matter what you say you FEEL. And maybe you should appraise & communicate how you feel on the basis of how you behave because you are not fooling her, just yourself.

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  • andrian007
    14 years ago

    I really hate saying this, but I'm going to side with the woman this time round. If you're not willing to be in a relationship with her, this is your choice, but this technically means she's never your girlfriend and therefore you have no right to be angry with her ex being around. She can hang out with whoever she likes and if she decides to go back to her ex, then you can't do anything about it.

    You cannot expect to not commit but at the same time expect her to not see anyone else, that's absolutely crazy.

    You have two options: you can either commit and be in a relationship with her... or let her move on. Choose.

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    • Stinger007
      11 years ago

      Exactly--you can't have the best of both worlds. If you don't want to take your "relations" into a "relationship" you should have no qualms about her being around her ex. However, I'm not sold on people talking to their exes anyway.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    IMO, you may never feel ready.
    Sometimes you just have to take the plunge.
    I think you're scared (of being hurt or maybe hurting her) & that's normal.
    Either take that leap of faith or let her go...

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  • luckygirl1111
    13 years ago

    If you love her so much.. Why don't you just committ? I DON'T UNDERSTAND.

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  • annastar12
    14 years ago

    hey
    I know what you mean i think you should either finish this relationship or go on a break till you realise what you want in your life and who you want if you think you havent had enough gf or havent messed around as much as you would like to maybe you should split up or if you need think about what you want on your own then maybe go on a break because if you go on a break and you miss her that much then you know what you want. But if you carry on like this your going to hurt her and she or you dont deserve this x hope you work it out

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  • ezra_morgan
    14 years ago

    But I'm seriously not ready. Relationship needs time no?

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  • Giovanna
    14 years ago

    maybe you could like go on a break
    and then when your ready get back together and give it another try... see how it goes again??

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  • kanachan
    14 years ago

    you know, as a woman I think I understand how she might be feeling. - you do not act like you love her because you don't want a relationship with her yet. It isn't fair on her part because you're making her wait and no matter what you say, she might not believe you because you wouldn't commit with her. make up your mind, if you want her, commit.

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  • thundercat
    14 years ago

    You are a wet rag. So full of self-pity. A jelly really. Leave her alone better.
    Stupidities: "I really love her but I am not ready". If you really love you are totally ready, if you are not ready to commit you don't love really.

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    • pantychaffe
      7 years ago

      Facts

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