Is this really wrong =/

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So it was my freshmen year, & my mom has been married at least twice, & has been with other guys. well she was single, & started talking to the new guy, i met him before but didnt think anything of it. we went to his house for superbowl sunday to like meet his kids. He has two sons & a daughter. immediately when i saw his one son i was drawn to him, he was a very good looking guy. well soon enough they all moved in with us. And i spend a lot of time with his son, & we got to knoe eachother & really hit it off. We never told eachother how we felt because we thought eachother would tell our parents so we would just hangout in my room all night cuddling & watching movies. That was always our thing. Well soon enough we got into a big fight, hiding feelings for eachother doesnt always go so well. He did all this crazy stuff to annoy me and it worked. Well he moved out and went back home to live with his mom. Before he left i wrote him a note telling him everthing. And eventually he joined the military. When he came back my mom & his dad were getting married, but we still had the connection when he came home. & after they married, they were gone on there honeymoon. He slept in my room every night, & eventually just cuddling became more. After awhile he told me he loved me, & he left to go back to base we still talked a lot, he promised me when he got out of military we would be togehter. well things sorta got ruined he began freaking out & talked to some other random girl. he came back home again recently and the spark is still there, he just doesnt want to hurt me. but i wanna be with him, & i knoe he wants to be with me. My mom doesnt see anything wrong with us being together, & his dad knoes we have something for eachother. But now he is freaking out thinking there is something wrong with it because were step bro & sis. But we met when i was like 16 & he was 19 we didnt grow up together, it was like meeting any other guy i never knew for the first time. is this wrong? or am i right with how i am thinking that it is fine? i mean you cant help how you find love you just have to go for it when you find it.

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  • SyC0Pathik
    14 years ago

    Do what ever feels right and if he cant accept that just tell him that its perfectly naural to have feelings for eachother and that its not your guyes fault that your parents hooked up personally i dont see anything wrong with you and i agree with you. once you get over the akwardness everything should be fine.

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  • tommy81
    14 years ago

    Yes, it's fine. Your only related by marriage and have absolutely no blood link so your good to go. I've found nothing socially unacceptable about it nor is it illegal so...your fine.

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  • randomnessgirl
    13 years ago

    I love my stepbrother and last year he admitted to liking me, but we had a misunderstanding and since he lives far away, I haven't been able to contact him:( but I'm the older one in our case and when I started reading your story I thought maybe he had written it but then the ending was different. It isn't normal to people who haven't gone through a parental remarriage, but I think it's totally normal for us who have. It's like meeting a hot guy, connecting with him and then having your parents marry. My parents didn't and won't have a child together, but PLEASE tell me how it goes for you because I like knowing there's someone out there in my situation and if you have a good outcome, it will give me more hope! Also do you think it would still be normal if you were the 19 year old and he was the 16 year old?

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  • Calvinanddani
    13 years ago

    FREAK.

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  • dragona
    13 years ago

    A friend of mine married her step brother and people were fine with it....and I live in close-minded land!! There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Normal

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  • BirdIsDaWordGuy
    14 years ago

    no, my parents met when my dad was 16 and my mum was 15 and i was born when my mum was 17 so thats alright

    being in love with your step bro is alright

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  • CarlWinslow989
    14 years ago

    wrong? Not really, it is arguable. Socially unacceptable? Definately. Be prepared for the social consequences.

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  • kimmyddxxx
    14 years ago

    i think its completely fine you sound as if you really love each other you're not related through blood and i know a couple who were step siblings who married and now they have 4 children and are completely happy there is nothing wrong with it at all

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  • frogface
    14 years ago

    this is a really lovely story, i really hope you guys can work things out. it just proves that love can be found in the most unlikely of places. like everyone else has said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and i hope he comes to see that. i hope it all works out for you!

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  • MisterMo
    14 years ago

    I agree with Tommy81, there's totally nothing wrong with it and that man shouldn't even worry about it. He should worry more about how many mistakes he will do before doing the right thing, that is true to his heart, which is actually, what your heart wants as well.

    It's not incest, since no blood related. And although it might be possible for your mother and step-father to have a child or children (depending on your mother's age). It's unlikely, and even so, the other thing important would be that your (possible) children with that man, wouldn't fall in love with your (possible) blood-related step-brother or step-sister.

    All in all, I'm not surprised that 1 teen rather near of age and one man barely being an adult falling in love together when they have just been brought together because their parents met at when their children had that age.

    Even if some people would maybe bash on your situation, I can't see a possible, logical and legal base that they would be right.

    - Not blood-related = Not incest
    - You guys have met when both of you were in
    the age of discovering their sexuality, not
    grew up together. Even if they would have
    grew up together from youth. Biologically
    speaking there's no problem unless they live
    in a small village that the genetic pool is
    very close (can bring up problems if both
    parents have the same ''troubled genes'' and
    it is being given to the baby.

    - Just for an example I just remembered, in
    some parts of the world, blood-related
    cousin can marry and it's even encouraged.

    On this, I can only hope that your ''totally not blood related step-brother'' will see the light and feel free to live his love with you and that he will careless for the small amount of people who will know that you're both related by each of your parent's marriage together and that will think badly about it.

    Good luck to you, and specifically to him. You've done your share and cannot have regrets since after you might bring up some of our comments as arguments (which I hope), the power will be in his hands.

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    • Confusedgirl
      14 years ago

      thankyouu :) that helps a lot. he is in the marines so between now till 2012 ill only get to see him so often when he is on leave but i hope i can find a way for him to see it is okay. he just has so much pride i guess its hard for him not to think of what others will say. but i am glad to knoe that its okay.

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  • Skyebugs
    14 years ago

    tommy81 is right. plus who gives a shit wat ne one thinks if u love eachother then b together. its quite simple. also ur mom n dad dnt care about it. just do wat right 4 u:)

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  • MzG727
    14 years ago

    its not incest if your not blood related. if you love each other go for it. to hell with what other people would think about it. in the end you'll have each other and thats all you need

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    • Confusedgirl
      14 years ago

      aww thanks that makes me realize a lottt! :)

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