Is this physical abuse?

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So my husband and I had a big fight. He then shut down completely and I kept begging him to communicate with me. We had 2 rounds of arguments,on the second one. He bust out, punched the door. Threw a cellphone at me, pushed me, threw a clothing rack in my direction and I dodged it. He didn't physically beat me with his hand. Then proceeded to kick me out of the house and I refused because I'm a marriage migrant and I pretty much have no family.

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    It sounds like he barely has his anger in check. Eventually he will go further. I would leave him as soon as you are able

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Yes!

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    3 years ago

    It seems like he wants to hurt you but doesn't want to beat you, so he's going as far as he can without it being technically considered beating. I'd still leave him if I were you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      He claimed that I pushed him over the edge and that when I was constantly yelling, it made him want to stab himself. At some point he said to me, you're dead meat if you don't give me my phone 😳. So let's say I was infact talking constantly and following him begging him to talk to me and solve the issue but he wanted me to keep quiet but I kept begging for answers and reassurance then he blew up.

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      • JellyBeanBandit
        3 years ago

        Well I don't know enough about either of you or your relationship to be able to say who's right and who's wrong. I'd advise you to either end it or see a marriage counsellor.

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago

          He's very much in the wrong for neglecting his wife, and being addicted to pornography, and masturbation. Even if her nagging questions are so are annoying that it would drive him insane, he's still at fault for using pornography to masturbate to, and choosing to neglect OP. He's just a piece of shit in my book. If he got in a terrible accident that damaged his private parts tomorrow it would be nothing I could ever feel pity for, because he's a selfish, and disgusting guy.

          What kind of piece of garbage masturbates to pornography, and then gets all enraged, and violent when he's confronted about what an awful person he is, and he is an awful person. Porn addicts are throw away people. If I met a guy tomorrow who seemed wonderful, but then I found out he was into pornography, and masturbation I would dump him so fast that his head would spin, guys like that deserve to be alone! What makes me sad is that a lot of women stay, because they're afraid of being alone, and that is truly sad.

          If OP is smart she will leave him.

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          • JellyBeanBandit
            3 years ago

            Are you serious? There's nothing wrong with porn/masturbating, it's healthy the vast majority of the time, for people who aren't addicted. You're crazy for thinking otherwise. Not caring if this guy suffered a debilitating accident cos he likes porn or he has an addiction is horrible tbh. And honestly you'd be doing any guy a favour for dumping him cos he likes porn, he'd be dodging a bullet.

            Yeah, the guy shouldn't be neglecting his wife but everyone gets a little lazy in their relationship now and again. It's not the porn or neglect that I have a problem with, it's the fact that he's very close to becoming a wife beater.

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            • RoseIsabella
              3 years ago

              NO, the guy IS a domestic abuser! He's already a verbal, emotional abuser who wants to hurt her. It's just a matter of time before he actually hits her. If he throws something, and it hurts her it's assault.

              Porn addicts, and abusers are bad enough, but when someone is both I could care less if such a person drops dead tomorrow. The guy is obviously a piece of shit, and hopefully OP will heed my words, and hire herself a good divorce attorney.

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            • RoseIsabella
              3 years ago

              Oh, and by the way, I don't appreciate you being presumptuous, and trying to misrepresent what I said. I'm not wishing assorted cancers, or grave bodily harm upon OP's spouse just because he's another piece of shit loser who happens to be addicted to pornography, and masturbation. I am wishing ill, and all manner of harm upon OP's spouse, because he's a domestic abuser who deserves to have bad things come to pass upon him in his wretched life! His lame ass addiction to pornography, and masturbation just adds insult to injury when one stops to think about the Hell OP must be going through. For the record I wish grave bodily harm upon all spousal abusers regardless of their sex, gender, sexual orientation, and or whether, or not the abuser is a piece of shit loser who is addicted to pornography, and masturbation. I believe that all abusers deserve bad things to come to pass upon them in their wretched lives, and I will NEVER stop wishing harm upon them!

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      • candylady
        3 years ago

        So he followed up the physical abuse(and, yes, that’s absolutely physical abuse) with some good old fashioned emotional abuse? Get the fuck away from this guy as soon as you can, while you still can.

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
        3 years ago

        Thats like the worst thing you could do is follow him and nag him. Next time when he's upset jusy back off and give him some space. He will cool down eventually.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        What were ya'll fighting about?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          He turned me down for sex. In the past he has done so when he had been watching a lot porn. So basically he'd have less sex with me but still get off to juicy blondes who look nothing like me. I know the pattern when he's on the porn again. It's humiliating to be turned down for sex by a husband who has porn issues. And we only have sex when he wants to. His desire is unpredictable.

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          • leggs91200
            3 years ago

            Men deal with women's unpredictable desire all the time.

            Why do women get so upset when a man is unpredictable with his desires?

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            Why don't you just leave his selfish, piece of shit ass?

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            He's a piece of shit, he's human garbage! What you need is a good divorce attorney. If he lays a hand on you call the cops, and press criminal charges against him. Save everything, and use it against him in court.

            I hope you have your green card, honey. Sounds like you need an immigration lawyer too. A lot of the guys who look to get mail order brides are just incels, they're lower than cockroaches.

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            • leggs91200
              3 years ago

              I am not taking sides, just have a question -
              In past posts that mention porn, you seem to get really bent out of shape over the subject. Why is that exactly?

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Good point, she should still call the cops, and file a report. She should document, and save everything for the divorce attorney!

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  • Jxanuary
    3 years ago

    You need to get away from him. That's not okay :(. Even if it wasn't that he tried to hit you with his hands, that's still abuse. I'm sorry this happened.

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  • --
    3 years ago

    No, sounds like he was just being a baby and having a temper tantrum.

    Girls, please don't egg guys on, its silly! Why poke the mother fuckin bear?

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Poke the bear, huh? I personally think if the bear doesn't like to be poked it's okay to shoot it, and make a rug out of its skin! 🤠💪🏻♡☆♡☆♡

      She should just leave his abusive, porn addicted, loser-ass!

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  • raisinbran
    3 years ago

    Sounds like you're begging for it.

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
      3 years ago

      Yep he ignored her for a reason. Take a hint. Allow him to cool down. When my wife is bitchy like that I shut my mouth. Thats not a good time to mention the food is too salty or whatever.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      NO!!!

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      3 years ago

      lol

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  • TerriAngel
    3 years ago

    Physical abuse obviosly means person to person.
    You speak very well.
    Makes me wonder your status.

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  • TerriAngel
    3 years ago

    It takes 2 to argue.
    Chill out.

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  • Toledorwb
    3 years ago

    You should have had supper ready. It’s your fault

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  • Resurgam53
    3 years ago

    Any unwanted touching such as you’ve described could be considered a “battery” upon your person. You could definitely have him arrested for “battery”.

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