Is this normal when dating an arab guy?

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Okay. Well about 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. It's was an emotionally and sometimes physically abusive relationship, which has screwed up my mind completely.

During the last week or so of the relationship I met this guy. He's an international student from Saudi. We had a thing for two weeks and then he decided to be just friends I agreed and we managed for about a day but I still had feelings and couldn't be that so we didn't speak for about two weeks. He then contacted me and we got back together in a real relationship.

So now that I'm in this new relationship bearing in mind I have been out of the dating game for 4 years. I'm rather confused on how it works and if it's normal or part of his culture to act like how he is. Usually at the start of relationships the guy would always contact you, he didn't contact me for 2days once. I don't know whether that's because my ex was obsessed with me and contacted me all the time and of how I think that's how relationships should be. Oh I should add there is a slight language barrier. so we don't talk for days and then randomly he sends me cry face emoticon and says that he loves me and misses me (when we've barely known each other ) or did he expect me message him during that time. I feel like I always instigate talking as well so I've calmed down on that and wait for him to message me . I feel like sometimes I annoy him, when I message him it's maybe once a day saying hey but somehow I feel like I'm getting on his nerves. Am I just being paranoid? Is he interested in me or is he playing me? Is this normal for a guy to do? Why do I feel like I can't message him because I think I'm annoying him?

I've asked my friends and well they say relevant things but then I always think the guys from my country (UK) are completely different so their advice is not entirely helpful. This guy I find that he can be so sweet but be so distant at the same time. I don't know whether this is what guys are like in Saudi when in a relationship. I just feel like this relationship is weird. It's not normal to me. Is it normal for guys in Saudi to treat their girlfriends like this?

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  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry but I enjoyed reading this. The "he sends me cry face emoticon and says that he loves me and misses me (when we've barely known each other)" really made me chuckle.

    I will resist stereotyping or making assumptions, but one thing's for certain, dating someone from such a vastly different culture often has complications like this, which results in a lot more compromising and confusion very early in the R'ship. It may also not be completely unreasonable to believe that he may be inexperienced dating wise.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You are getting into another potentially difficult relationship. Why are you choosing to do so? Wouldn't it be better to just get into a simple, easy thing with somebody you understand and has a similar background to you?
    I think you are setting yourself up to fail once again. You are going from one relationship where you were treated like shit by your guy into one with a guy who is from a culture that treats women like shit. Are you nuts?
    You are not thinking, here. You are acting just like a guy; thinking with your little head (in your case twat). Dump this Arab guy.

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  • Phat
    9 years ago

    RUN!! Unless your up for wearing a Burka it's coming guarantee.

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  • webjock
    9 years ago

    Just be careful when dealing with this guy - that's all I am going to say on this subject.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    A majority of people don't like to take initiative when it comes to talking since they fear that they'll come off as clingy or something.

    Just take initiative. Feel free to tell him you're scared you'll come off as annoying if you talk first. I'm sure he's been feeling the same way as you.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Can you take a break from relationships for a while and learn to be a bit more independent?

    All that agonising about what he's thinking and feeling, where does it get you? That's about obsession, not love.

    Some introspection about your own feelings would be more productive

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    RUN. After being sweet to you at first this guy is going to treat you like dirt. The cultural differences are too great.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    why does life have to be hard for you? scared you'll annoy, abusive ex , waiting on others ..

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