Is this normal to have these feeling toward my bff? - please help

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I have become very close to my bff over the past 2 years and I think I am in love with her.I have never felt these strong feelings like this about a girl before,may I add im a girl too.I find myself fantasizing about her in a dirty way at night.

We are extremely close,we are always doing crazy thinks like bitting and liking each other and people think we are lesbians.We have had those moments when you play around with each other laughing and then suddenly you stop and stare at each others eyes,just inches away from each other lips like your going to kiss.She has had a lesbian past if it helps.I think we feel the same way about each other but to scared to admitt it.

Its got so bad that I get jealious when she even talks to any other girl and im losing her because of this.Am I a lesbian or is it normal to feel like this about my bff.Please help im so scared and insecure right now and im to ashamed to talk about it to anyone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Lonely 2- I feel the same, I can only b honest with strangers I will never meet again. But I feel in love with my bff somehow but that was when I hadn't seen her in ages and she was straight. So b thankful u CAN tell her.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Very normal. I did this too...and I asked about a threesome. She was down. It makes it easier and more "acceptable" to have a lesbian encounter if there's also a man present...its easier to justify to yourself.

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  • Lonely2
    13 years ago

    To have strong sexual feelings to someone you also close too is a blessing...you are very very normal as that is the healthiest scenario ...I have the exact opposite problem...I am only attracted to strangers and the closer I get to someone the less sexual I feel

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  • hithere123
    13 years ago

    fuck her brains out :)
    thats wat i do to my boyfriend all the time
    - patrick foley :)

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  • tafe1296
    13 years ago

    we only get 100 or so years to live, experiment at a level ur comfortable at, and see where it takes you. Tell ur BFF how you feel, be honest and straight-forward to her...since she had a lesbian past and she IS ur BFF, I think she will understand how u feel. It matters not of what others say or think about u...just go for it.
    Good Luck!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Go for it! And if anyone makes fun of you for it, who cares, right? Do what you Want. Oh and if they do make fun, they're probably just jealous ;)

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Its really up to you whether you take the next step sexually but you obviously have strong romantic feelings for her. I think you should tell her cause she feels the same way too, apparently. If you don't acknowledge how both of you feel, you could lose each other as friends, whatever you would have decided to do as a couple.

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  • lotusgirl
    14 years ago

    i think you should tell her how you feel and just kiss and make out with her
    and if she doesn't want to be your bff after that...shes not a true friend

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  • Shifter
    14 years ago

    Many people get confused about their sexuality sometime or another in their lives, some people also experiment with the opposite sex and then they go on to lead %%u2018normal%%u2019 man and wife marriages. Others have sexual experiences and learn that they are more attracted to the same sex. Although people have sexual %%u2018preferences%%u2019 I honestly don%%u2019t think sexuality exists, maybe that makes me sound like a nutter, but what I mean is, at the end of the day when you fall inlove with someone and all that bollocks, whether they are a boy or a girl, seizes to matter.

    So stop focosing on the fact your friend is a girl and just ask yourself, do you really like this person? And if so...go for it.

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