Is this normal, rational behavior from my boyfriend

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so my bf and i got in a huge fight last night. we were watching a movie and something in then movie triggered a fight. he accused me of accusing him of cheating which i wasn't at all, i made a joke bc he said "you girls blah blah blah" and i was like "oh who's the other girl" JOKINGLY... and he got pissed!!!!! i know he doesn't cheat cuz i basically live w him and we're always together and he loves me. i'm 18 and he's 27.. btw. he also yelled me and said that i pushed his female friends away and now he doesn't have any friends that are girls.. which i didn't.. he stopped snapchating them and vice versa when i came around... he also gets really mad over everything. like he called me a moron and retarded bc i asked him where to get water when he asked me if i could get him some.. i just don't know if this is normal. i'm his first girlfriend btw

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  • Memer666
    6 years ago

    He obviously doesn't have a sense of humour! Dump him. He sounds like a jerk.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Erk.

    He's 27, you say in another thread that you've been together for ten months, and you're his first girlfriend.

    Yeah... There's probably a very good reason for that.

    As I said in my comments on that other post (which I read before this), the guy sounds like bad news, and the relationship sounds toxic. Nothing you say here makes me change my view that you should leave him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      why is he with me do you think? and why do you think i'm his first serious gf? he's had things and such but nothing over a few months

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      • Boojum
        6 years ago

        From what you've said in your various posts, it sounds like you're his first serious girlfriend because - for reasons beyond my understanding - you're willing to tolerate his rage, disrespect, and emotional immaturity.

        In other words, you're the first girl he's encountered who's willing to put up with his bullshit.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          it's just weird and I don't know why but he was never abusive towards me until eight months into the relationship and he's never hit me

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    You shouldn't put up with him, he's not worth the trouble.

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  • Katerina
    6 years ago

    Nope, nope and nope. Are you the same poster who also asked about the bf who calls you names and such? If so, I'm sticking with my comment on that page.
    He sounds really immature, which is saying much since I'm not quite comfortable with the big age gap between you. There just might be very good reason for why he hasn't had a gf before

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      what do you think the reason is

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      • Katerina
        6 years ago

        Probably a mixture of selfishness, insecurity and immaturity. In all honesty, he sounds like a really immature asshole with anger management issues, which is usually a red flag for girls. I might be judging him a bit harshly, but I doubt it. Hunny, I really think you deserve better

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          do you think he could hit me

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          • Katerina
            6 years ago

            It's possible, but you'll now better than me. Do you think he could hit you?
            Also remember, even if he never hits you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's not abusing you. I'm not saying that he is, but any other types of abuses (emotional, sexual, etc) is just as wrong and damaging'

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          • Katerina
            6 years ago

            Hunny, are you still okay over there?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    he's also yelling "FUCK" at the moment bc he's putting a chair together and he keeps fucking it up

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    • Maid_in_Pink
      6 years ago

      Hun...if he's reacting to you the same way as an inanimate object then there is something very much not ok with how he's treating you. Also, if he's saying things like that it's because he's wanting more female attention. He might not be actively cheating but some of what you just said makes me feel like he might want to...or at the very least find a new girlfriend and that's WHY he got defensive. Now, it might not be the reason, he might just feel trapped or maybe those girls abandoned him because he wasn't available and they wanted more so maybe he feels like he lost a lot of options, I don't know for sure.

      I have a bit of a unique perspective of this having been born a boy who wanted to be a girl and having been through a few relationships that weren't exactly healthy...When I was still all boy and my ex who was a girl treated me like crap I blew it off for a long time but it ended up being a very toxic relationship. She even eventually told me to my face that she never really loved me she just tried to create a life that her parents wouldn't give her shit for and the entire time she was just using me and manipulating me to keep me trapped with her.

      I'm not going to tell you to make a decision on how to go from here but I'll at least say that his actions are not ok and you sound like you're a nice girl. Don't let anyone, boy or girl, not peer nor elder treat you as less than anything but amazing. I'm a firm believer that every person deserves the best and if someone isn't treating you well, then I will firmly say that you deserve better.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        thank you (: so much! he gets defensive about everything though. every "interrogating" question he gets mad!! so i don't think he's cheating... and he loves me so he's not looking for anyone. i think he feels trapped or suffocated bc apparently I pushed away all his female "friends" when in reality i'm sure they just stopped talking to him bc a) he has a serious gf now & b) they have boyfriends now.. we have talked about how to work on things but he gets mad in that convo... so idk.

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