Is this normal on dates?

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I keep going on dates with guys where it seems to go really well.. we have a good time.. talk for hours about loads of different things.. no awkward silences free following we either go bowling or for drinks or both they usually pay for the date and can last up to 6-8 hours on the date but even though it seems like on the night they were having a great time and getting on well they just seem to loose interest i admit i go a little far sometimes like at end of date i'll sometimes make out with them for a few hours or whatever but i dont see why this would put them of when we're hitting it off? i'm looking for a exclusive relationship so i don't know why but i find it confusing when theres clearly chemistry between us and then they don't want to know anymore.. anyone have any idea?

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    That was an awful long way to go to make your point. Anyway, I agree with the above. It may be clear to them that you're looking for an exclusive relationship from the first date. Need to be patient. Guys can smell a needy or intrusive woman a mile away, and tend to run the other way.

    I dated a woman who, her first (and only) time at my house, saw my fenced-in back yard and commented, regarding her son "Nicolas is going to love this yard!"..My mind told me..Get away from her, now. The very notion of her already mentally moving herself in was enough for me to run the other way, fast. She also, on her own on her way back from the bathroom, took it upon herself to obtain a t-shirt from my dresser. That was enough for me, she was gone soon after.

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  • Rictictavie
    6 years ago

    Maybe they can tell that you want an exclusive relationship. If they do not want the same they will ghost real quick.

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  • Gitmeoffbitch
    6 years ago

    You must be built like an ironing board love. Your personality shines but men need some curves and a nice soft round butt to cuddle up to at night. Sorry, but those are the facts of life.

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    • Ellenna
      6 years ago

      Oh so it's true, is it, that men are so superficial that a woman's body type is the most important thing?

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        We have different things we're attracted to. When you go for unconfident, whiney, controlling men, we will date unattractive women.

        It's unfair to claim moral superiority because women are sexually attracted more to behavior than appearance. It is equally as selfish as male sexuality.

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        • Ellenna
          6 years ago

          Except that behaviour indicates a person's attitude to others, whereas appearance means nothing at all and in any event, it doesn't last

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          • rayb12
            6 years ago

            That is incidental, you are no more morally superior because you're sexually more attracted to something with greater moral implications.
            You still function on the same level as men, going towards what turns you on and away from what turns you off.

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            • Ellenna
              6 years ago

              Who's talking about moral superiority? Not me .... You seem to be saying that sexual attraction cannot be resisted? I know sometimes it's hard, and it was a revelation to me the first time I was sexually attracted to someone I actually strongly disliked, but I still had a choice on whether or not to act on the attraction. And yeah, I did, and it was disastrous!

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    I would say maybe they have the expectations of getting REALLY lucky by getting you naked and you both taking turns sexing each other up. As a guy myself I'm sure 85% (just a guess) of guys have high hoped of getting laid even on a blind date.

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    Kissing for hours? I think I'd want to stab myself with a knife.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    I am a tactile person. I think great kissing is highly enjoyable, even for hours. Honestly, you scare me. I'm not sure just why, but I don't like your sense of ownership.

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    6 years ago

    Maybe it's what you're talking about? I know you're after an exclusive relationship and you're probably being pretty forward about it but are you talking about things that might be a bit scary for some men? Long term plans? Wanting a house and a husband all that? Even if you're planning on taking your time mentioning those things can be a putoff to guys a lot of the time.

    The other thing is...some guys maybe just aren't looking for that? I know most weren't looking for that when I was younger. No one I knew wanted to be tied down to anyone and even in my mid 20s most of the guys I knew were already divorced and wanted specifically to avoid that mess of a steady relationship.

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