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Is it normal for my girlfriend to not want to sleep with me in the same bed? Because of this, sex is now pretty non existent. To her the bed is for sleeping only and we don't need to be together, we're I like the close proximity of my partner and to cuddle up etc... Is this normal?
I wonder what is going on.. Shes got something or someone else on her mind or she has been violated and has post traumatic stress
Some women don't like to share the bed because they have had a traumatic event in the past that causes them to feel unsafe when someone else is in the bed with them... Sleeping together with your significant other, holding them, making love, and falling asleep together (In the same bed) are all parts of a normal, healthy relationship. Talk to her about it, let her know how you feel about it... If nothing changes it will be up to you to keep the relationship or find one that fulfills all of your needs.
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I don't think this is normal. In fact, it's a very strange mentality to have... Where do you get romantic? On the sofa or does she just view it as a place for sitting, snacking and watching flims?
She's 36 same as me.. She has 3 kids and no religion.. We do have sex in the bedroom its the only place she likes to do it. But more often then not, she wants to go to sleep then share intimate time together..
It depends really. This is far to vague to really give a good answer. It depends on age, how long you have been together, priorities, possibly religion, values. It could be any number of things. She could be waiting till marriage if you are not married. She could not be interested since she is young and is unsure if she wants sex. She could just be selfish or the relationship is beginning to bother her. Would she allow you to have sex anywhere else beside the bedroom? It might sound unconventional but possibly this is the issue. You did not give enough information though. If you say she is between 15-19 might be the age and she is not ready. If you say 15-older it might also be religious or moral beliefs. Also no I am not saying you or her are 15 just giving an overall average since those tend to be the ages when women are still questioning if they want to lose it or not.
She tells me that she loves me a lot and that she wants to be with me.. She's fairly straight down the line.. But since I first posted this question we have broken for various reasons.. She still tells me that she loves me and she wants to be with me but I just don't know anymore.. Maybe the relationship died a long time ago.. Idk :(
Sounds like your relationship is over. No offense, I'm not trying to scare you, but this is the biggest sign. Best thing you can do is straight up ask her. "Do you want to break up with me?" If she looks suprised like.. "HUH, where did that come from?" I could be wrong. If she's weird and lazy about your question.. Well.. :/ Be prepared for the worst. I've seen this a lot. She's likely staying because she's 1.Unsure if she wants to leave you 2.Likes the financial situation 3.Hasn't thought of where she will go, but knows she doesn't want to be with you.
Or it's something else, but this is what I've experienced first hand. Good luck!
I don't believe its any of the above. I'm very romantic with her. I'm a very affectionate guy and I don't have male sex with her.. I make love to her. apparently I wriggle a bit in bed when asleep but have not had any issues with previous gf's. She doesn't sleep very well for a start and she scratchs like a hound dog with fleas. Apparently she was this with all her partners...
Its quite normal for ANYONE to have these phases. They are sometimes one night in a year, or its every night for a few months.
OR.. She's just not interested in you romantically anymore. Which means you must try to be more romantic and not just have male sex with her. 'Male' meaning, that you give no or little effort romantically.
Actually, because of your choice of words I'd say its the second one above, strangely selfishness is not a turn on for girls!
OR.. She actually is not interested in you any longer. You don't turn her on, and likely won't ever. In this case resort to your original ways in which you first met and outings, if its not too late already!
OR.. She already had sex without you knowing (this may include masturbation) Only good communication will resolve this one.
I still think the second one though ;)