Is this normal, i mean obviously not, but anyone else? help please!!!!

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Ok so I live with my mom dad little brother Thaddeus, and big brother Langston. Langston's the oldest and he's 18 and in college now, I'm the middle kid at 15, and Thaddeus is 2. It used to be that when Langston and I were younger, my dad would beat us with the belt when we were bad (btw is that normal???) but a few years ago my dad's catering business kinda hit a downward spiral and so he became angrier and hateful more often than not, he beat us more, started drinking more, and eventually the drugs picked up again because apparently he used to do them when he was younger too...
Any way one night, it was 2 weeks before Christmas and 1 week before Thaddeus was born. So obviously my mom was 9months pregnant at the time...my dad got drunk, did some drugs, (I thinks he might've sold the car once for drugs too but we got it back) anyway he started beating up my mom and she couldn't really fight back, Langston tried to stop him but he couldn't and so I called the police...
Turns out the police don't do shit....no offense to any police officers or whatever.. but my dad didn't change even after having to take an 18 week domestic violence class and spending the night in jail and not being able to see my mom or us kids for a week...
But now two years later...still the same...he's started to beat Thaddeus (my little brother) and I'm reaaaaaally fucking tired of it....my mom won't leave him after I've begged her and I don't know if I should call cps (child protective services) or what but I can't live like this anymore...he needs to gtfo (sorry for making it so long, but there's just too much to tell) what should I do?

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    My boyfriend was raised in a family like this. His own father took off when he was 5 I think. Then step-fathers would come in and beat him. At one point his mom took off with one of the men and left my boyfriend to raise his half-siblings for 6 months or a year or something. My boyfriend dropped out of school and did the best he could. At the age of 15 it is hard to support a bunch of kids. By this time my boyfriend was a real fighter, and so the last of his mom's boyfriends tried to beat him after his mom came back home, but he regreted it and still limps to this day. It all worked out, but my boyfriend was fortunate not to land in jail with the survival techniques he had to resort to.

    Call CPS if that seems like the best course. You need to look out for yourself, but you can't be afraid to stick to your decision to tell the truth. Follow through and get it done. Talk to a teacher and guidance counselor if there are good ones at your school. They should help you.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Oh yes, he does need to get the fuck out! I think you should call child protevtive services. And tell other people like your teacher what your father does. Your brother is still very young and if you're lucky if the father has to leave now he wont remember. If your mom can't protect your family then you should. And it was very brave and honorable of you to call the cops. I really hope you can get out of this situation.

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    • AbnormallyAwesome
      10 years ago

      PS: Where do you live?

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      • Basiagirl98
        10 years ago

        Thanks for replying...I was kind of afraid of what people might say but your comment reassured me!! And why do wanna know? Just asking..

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        • AbnormallyAwesome
          10 years ago

          I just wanted to now what country you live in because the legal situation is different in different places.

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          • Basiagirl98
            10 years ago

            Oh well I live in America

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            • AbnormallyAwesome
              10 years ago

              Okay, then the law should be on your side. Have you spoken to CPS and/or an adult person you trust yet?

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Hug! To you and your siblings.
    Your mother is as guilty as your father for letting him do this to you. That is not an environment fit for children to grow up in.

    I'd call CPS and tell adults that I trusted. I'm even inclined to advice you to take your baby brother and LEAVE that damn house if you have any relatives or close friends of yours that you TRUST.
    Sadly I'm not from America so I have no idea about how things work or if you'd even risk getting accused of kidnapping but ...good luck with this and you should NOT have to put up with this.

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    • Basiagirl98
      10 years ago

      thank you so much for your kind words....that just made my day! I just have to keep reminding myself that what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, and there's always a rainbow on the other side of the storm :)

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      • (s)aint
        10 years ago

        Glad that I could help!
        Sadly people in your situation can think and truly believe that their situation is normal and that they might even be the ones that are doing something wrong.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Call CPS.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Hey, Basiagirl98
    I was wondering how things are going. Has anything changed?

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  • richardbturgid
    10 years ago

    Next time he does anything that makes for cause for self defense, knock him unconscious. Not really but don't take that. Call the pigs and send him to jail where he's supposed to be.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Hi again.
    Just wanted to check how it's going with your family and CPS.
    Any change?

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    • Basiagirl98
      10 years ago

      I haven't called them :( ....Idk sometimes are better than others and I think he'll change but idk what to do in the meantime

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        10 years ago

        I'm sure he's not an all around bad guy and maybe he will change some day. But he doesen't need to be around your family for that. His job as a father would have been to love you all the time and protect you even when you messed up. It shouldn't be the other way around. When he has to leave the family it will teach him the consequences of his behaviour. I assume when he's sober he doesen't want to hurt you, so you will do him a favour when you take away any chance to do so.

        More importantly you need to protect yourself and your family. Your little brother is at an age that will define him for life. If he isn't freed from his destructive father, there's a sadly high statistical chance he will be like him when he's grown up.

        You seem to still love your father and that's exacltly why he doesen't deserve you. You and your brother deseve a safe and happy childhood. Please call CPS.

        It's unfair that it's you who has to do this. It should have been your mother or maybe your elder brother. But it wasn't. Now you have to be strong for all of them.

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        • Basiagirl98
          10 years ago

          ok first of all, wow, thanks so much for continually taking time out to comment and reply it really means a lot! i'm gonna do whatever I can In my power to change my situation, but it won't be easy and I understand that!i may not call the cps now, but if it comes to that point I will, not matter how much my mom begs me not to! thanks so much for your help

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      • noid
        10 years ago

        He will not change.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Thaddeus? Langston? o_O

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    Book too long:(

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    • Basiagirl98
      10 years ago

      What?

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