Is this normal i feel this way!!!

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I'm currently dating this guy. We have been together for about 4 years he's 7 years older than me. He wants someone that will cook and clean etc he's used to women spoiling him but that's not me. Sometimes I get into these moods where I don't want sex or be touched (I was abused as a kid) and he would get upset and say he needs sex for work etc and I feel horrible afterwards! He refuses to leave me. I feel trapped I don't claim him as my boyfriend any more we have good times but I'm not attracted to him. I'm scared to get pregnant by him or bring him around my friends I feel like I'm using him or something??

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Based on 24 votes (5 yes)
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  • icant_
    9 years ago | pl

    Break up over the phone. That way you won't see how hurt he is!

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    • Ace09
      9 years ago

      Genius.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      ...or break up with him in a text.

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago | pl

    You could just leave him.

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    Time to jump ship, deary.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It sounds more like he's using you.
    As for leaving him, there's this great song by Simon and Garfunkel called '50 Ways to leave your lover'. You should listen to it.

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  • vergil7
    9 years ago

    7 years? dump him. he's old

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    In any relationship, communication is key. Talk to him. Be honest about how you feel. Besides, he deserves to know if you're pregnant.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Get yourself get yourself a pair of Asics, and run!

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  • Gavin0420
    9 years ago

    Your not in love its as simple as that you thought it would go some were, but it didn't you got to face facts end the relationship.
    <3 Gavin

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  • Crusades|
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you're not the relationship type of girl. Just end the whole thing and stop wasting the man's time. Give him the chance to find someone else that will treat him good.

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    • Light-Yagami
      9 years ago

      I'm aware you're a troll but this comment actually sounds serious...OP, don't listen to Crusades, he is trolling.

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  • luckbug772
    9 years ago

    I'm afraid of hurting his feelings I've tried twice :(

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    • dirtybirdy
      9 years ago

      Girrrll, come on now. You're letting emotions rule over logic. Stop that. You need to do what's best for you. He'll get over it and you'll be better for it. You can't just let yourself suffer because of this dudes feelings. You're not happy with him anymore and that's ok. It happens. Stop torturing yourself :(

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      • Crusades|
        9 years ago

        She would probably leave him in a heartbeat if it wasn't for the $monay$

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        • dirtybirdy
          9 years ago

          There was no mention of money. Maybe she makes the dough, yo. She did say that he refuses to leave her. Hmm. He's a dependent baby, it seems. Needs a woman to pamper him. F that noise, homie.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Funk dat!

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  • 1.618033989
    9 years ago

    ABANDON SHIP!

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  • MissDethstar
    9 years ago

    Of course this is not normal. Clearly you cannot satisfy the men, and you are not to blame at all for the way you are. He's looking for something else in a relationship but he can't do the big move and leave you. He's probably too scared of moving on or too attached even though he complains that you won't do what he wants.You should leave him, the way you speak of him you don't seem to be comfortable with this men, especially by saying he is scaring you.

    And the part about needing sex to go to work ? That's bullshit. Sex can be an important part but he is clearly making you feel guilty to make you have sex with him.

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