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I been in this new relationship for about 4months now and this is the second time my girl said she not sexual attractive to me but she says are sex life is great ...I don't understand her if we having great sex all the time why doesn't she feel that I'm attractive? I really like her a lot I don't wanna loose her so soon but what should I do?
Some advice: if a woman isn't sexually attracted to you at first, it probably won't get any better. I wasn't attracted to my last girlfriend and I tried spicing up our love life, but nothing worked. You'll save yourself some pain if you two go your separate ways now.
So you're saying if a woman isn't instantly asexual attracted to you it probably won't happen? Or after a reasonable amount of time like OP?
The poor bastard...
Well I just mean that if a woman is fundamentally unattracted to you, it probably won't ever change. I dated a girl a little while back, she was really butch looking and I never really found her looks appealing. She also was way too meek for me, as I discovered after several months of dating. I tried doing things to convince myself to find her attractive, but nothing worked.
Fair enough. I thought you were suggesting that attraction couldn't develop.
What you need is a butch Aussie.
A Shazza!
What is a Shazza? Lol never heard of it. And I kind of switched over to men... So I haven't been checking out many women lately. I am not sure what caused my feelings to change
A Shazza is a female variety of the Australian "Bogan" species :)
Butch & not at all meek.
They can often be identified by their dress sense (singlet/tank top under a flanny), short haircuts & left tit tattoos.
You "kind of" switched to men?
So you just kind of suddenly lost interest
in women?
You two have not fallen in love with each other yet. When you are in love with someone else, all their flaws become your nose.
You don't see your nose but it is still there.
So love makes your brain more lenient. You overlook the small things in time.
So when she falls in love with you someday, you will magically become a nose.
And float to fairyland.
On a magical broom named Jeffy.
And there will be custard.
There will be custard.
Obviously you aren't attractive to her but you have great sex.
Talk about it as a start. And if you can't come to a relationship that's not just about the great sex then you're not going to have any other type of relationship.
I want to say leave her, but I remember when my sister dated her current boyfriend. When they were just "testing the waters", she did not find him physically attractive in any sense at all. When she started to know him better after few months, she started to fall in love with him and started to find him physically attractive. They're inseparable now and she talks mushy stuff about him non stop. Give it a few more months and see what happens before you end it.
All women? Are all men the same?
Sounds like she's just using you to occupy herself until someone better comes along.
Just don't get too attached to this one.