Is this normal behavior?

As long as the trouble he's had doesn't include hurting kids or his girlfriends . If it does put your sons welfare above you heart and walk away from your ex . Other wise take it slow and let him prove him self and show he wants a good life with you and your son . Don't make excuses for him or let him avoid responsibility for his actions . Good luck .

Awww hun, sorry to hear whats happened. But in the end, the deicision is up to you. I think you should have a sit down and really think about what you want and of course now that you have a baby, whats good for him too. You're not in a solo position anymore so whatver decisions you make will have an impact on your baby. But, if you and ur ex really have strong strong feelings for each other and you both believe that love still remains between the two of you then the only thing i suggest is, take it slow.

Just because you dated 5 years ago does not mean people haven't changed. You were both so very young then and viewed things differently. So, take it slow. Start going on dates, spend more time with each other and go through the same stages you went through when you first got together. Start fresh and slow and then, only then can you make the right decision.

Maybe women may view and feel differently, but, if me and bf broke up (touch wood) and 5 years down the line i found out he has a child with someone else, I wouldn't feel the same. In the sense of, yes loving him, but him having a child would mean I won't be the number 1 factor in his life and the child will always come first. I mean this is how I would personally feel and others may view it differently. But you yourself said that ur ex and ur son. Like i said, only you will know whats right, but just take it slow.

good luck chick xx

Well, he sounds really good on paper, that is how most people are at first. You say that he has a troubled past? What does this mean? Did it happen when he was a teenager? Recently? Think about things like, does he have a felony, a bad record, a drivers license, a car, a steady job, a 401K, a good reputation, an education, not trying to be pretentious, but these things prove valuable in a long-term relationship. I'm sure you can find a hand-full of guys who you can talk to, tell you what you want to hear, console you but your best interest is maybe a lot more than you/he really is considering. I just wouldn't want you to learn the hard way. It takes a strong person to work things out with the guy, but an even stronger person to walk away and really give your time to decide what is best for you. Try looking at some of other peoples' relationships and ask yourself, what does this guy have that I would like for my relationship? Guys are really smooth talkers and since you, believe it or not, are very vulnerable right now, this guy may seem to fit the expectations you have, but maybe only for a little while. If you never knew this person from the past, would you be willing to date him knowing how is now? Us women forever hold on to emotional connection, and that screws us over sometimes. And why is is that your mother has such a problem with him neway?

You both made mistakes (obviously) So it would be silly for you not to give him a chance because of his. I wouldn't listen to your mom. If worst comes to worst you can just dump him...

Following your heart can leave you in a pile of shit, honestly. Follow your head dude. Can this guy provide for you and your kid. Can he? Now, will he? If the answers to those questions are yes, tread slow. real slow.

I know it seems really hard to not have someone to care about you right now, and that is clearly why you are seeing the old fling again, but even though this guy seems to be amazing with your son and all, I think that your mom is looking to have you stop the drama in your life. Maybe you should be single for a while, did you ever think of that??? C'mon, you are barely 20, wait until you are like 23 or something, by then you will get over this guy and get your act together on your own and concentrate on your son, rather than some guy all the time. Clearly you are someone who is in to drama or you would have really decided what was best for you a long time ago and dumped your babies daddy a long time ago. I think your mom understands this better than you do. Dump them all, save yourself and your kid some long-term drama. No offense, I have a sister who does the same thing.

You followed your heart when having unprotected sex with your boyfriend at age 19, you followed your heart when you chose to have his child and stay with him. Now if you really think for fact you'll be happy and have a nice family with your ex-boyfriend, go for it.