Is this normal???

It is quite obvious they do not like you. I would probably stop visiting them. Perhaps you should go there for one last visit and smash those pictures

My EX-wife is big into scrapbooking and keeps a lot of old photos from our 9 years together. She even has pictures of me with my new wife in her photo albums. It's ok! We're all adults here and there is no bad blood. Her new husband is fine with it. My new wife is fine with it.
I think some people just like to document their lives with photos.
I do think it would be weird if there were large photos of me on the walls of her home now.

Well they could certainly be more considerate of your feelings, but I guess these ex's are part of their family history and memories... You've let them know how you feel but beyond that is it really worth making such a big deal out of it? Try to let it go.

its right for you to react this way, i would be very offended if it happened tp me and i recomend you do not visit them, should they complain about your lack of visits explain to them that it is because those pictures make you feel unwanted there because it gives of the wrong kind of message that a famly home should

i kinda know how you feel my bf's baby mama tried posting pics of her on myspace and i told him it was inappropriate considering she is his babys mama and i am his gf now... she sent pics of her and him when they were together also and i can't seem to get him to understand how it hurts that he can sit there and remember the past w/her but can't tell her to stop so i wish ya luck

I don't think they are doing this to upset you, they have a lot of history with the other girls. Even though your husband no longer enjoyed being with them, that doesn't mean that his family automatically stops liking these girls. I think that if you relaxed a little this wouldn't be such a big deal. They are the mother's of the grandchildren after all. But if you are still very upset by this maybe you should talk to your mother-in-law and sister-in-law and try to explain what it is that you are so worried about. Perhaps they would tell you that they DO like you, and don't want to hurt your feelings?? But I don't think you should punish your husband for something his family is doing! And if you are the one with the problem YOU should be the one to correct it, not make him speak to them because you are uncomfortable doing it yourself. Good luck!

I think that since she was once part of the family it's normal and if there is kids involved they are grandma and grandpa you know? this would piss me off to no end... and it would most likely drive me to the point of not wanting to go over there.

I understand why you're frustrated, BUT you shouldn't let it come between you and your husband. Your husband requested the pics be taken down and the mother didn't honor his request, what can he or you do about it? Do you have good relations with the mom? If not she's just being petty and presumably is nostalgic for his old flames to return, ignore her for real. As long as your husband's eyes are only for you, I wouldn't even care. Also, you gotta think if the other woman had kids with him, those are her grandkids too and she may not want to upset them. I would just either let it go or have a heart to heart with the mom. If no progress is made, drop it, your husband is more important, than trying to please the mother, who may or may not like you. If you treat his family and him with respect and courtesy and they don't like you, oh well. That's all you can do, seriously. You cannot please everyone and everyone will NOT like you no matter how sweet, pretty, or intelligent you are.

You probably already told him millions of times that it hurts you to have to look at those pictures on the wall... say just one more time, if the pictures don't come down, stop visiting them (don't just say it, do it).

Yea like it was said they don't like you. You tried your best and there's nothing else you can do about it. Just don't go over there anymore and enjoy being with your daughter and husband. Or maybe if you all agree you could move out of the city or state and just start over. Maybe then they'll realize what they created. But whatever you do good luck!

Ok, maybe I should probably read everyone else's response, but I'm not going to. What I would do is to just take down those pictures yourself. Chances are your husband has a key to the place, right? They can see how serious you were then, right? You asked politely - even their own son asked politely, so now... screw them. Take down the pictures and burn them.

that was really hard to keep up with.

but i say you should stop being nice to them and not visit them anymore.
or you could replace the photos without them looking.

My mom does this sort of thing with her scrap books... she has pictures of my ex husband who in a custody battle took our son away from me and now doesnt allow me to visit.

So you can tell I obviously dont want to see pictures of our wedding or us dating or whichever but she refuses to get rid of them!

Some poeple are like that about photos tho, they cant get rid of them or hide them. I dunno.

Since you are saying this could lead to a divorce, I think that's a little ridiculous, and if you don't calm down you will lose your husband, and be stuck being a single mom, like me (which there is nothing wrong with that but it's lonely and not good for your child in some ways). Anyway, sometimes people especially woman like the mother-in-law, and sister-in-law, can be kind of weird. I don't think that's normal, but you seem to have some kind of animosity towards these woman in the pictures. It may even be a little jealousy, or something. I think you should just stop visiting them, and tell your husband to take the baby over when they want to see her. OR....

I might regret giving you this advice to use your child as a bribe, but you can tell grandma if she wants to see her granddaughter maybe she should see things your way, but then again that might bring anger to your husband. My sons great-grandmother is such a bitch, she is so sneaky, and vindictive. She and all the other nutjobs in the family tried to steal my son before I even woke up after childbirth, and then it took me over a year to have full custody of my son, because of her. I do however let her see my son, but do you think I go over there, HELL NO. You should just stay the hell away from them, it solves everything. They are weird for doing that though, especially with the ex-girlfriend. I could see if maybe they had a photo album with them in it, but not a poster-sized picture. UHHHH I hate to think of what my mother-in-law will be like, I can't get along with older woman sometimes.

or u can date a 17 year old like me and not worry about shit.... :P

that wouldent be a "crime" is perfectly normal for a 40 year old to date or even have sex with a 17 year old like me... :P