Is this love???

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i love him alot, we are together in a relationship since last 6 years now. we both cant live without each other for sure.. but now since he is into job, he always has reasons that he is buisy and that is why he doesnt has time.. but he always gives time to his family. he always takes a leave from job when he feels like but when i ask him to meet me.. then he has a bunch of reasons.. that he cant. i feel he lies, because according to me, u have to take time out to do things that you prioritise.. i feel like leaving him, because i feel neglected and ignored, but he then calls me and make up for everything n i flow with emotions. he is my strength and at the same time my weakness. i am stuck. my parents know everything about him, and even his parents have a clue. we bot are serious for each other n want to get married. but this ignorance makes me double minded, n forces me to reconsider my decision. i dont bond much with my parents due to that i rely on him more emotionally, n that could be one reason that i am still clinging on him... i am very confused??? but he used to give me time before... that is also true...but his reasoning seems to be unvalid to me now..

is it love or just a need? 4
should i leave him? 9
whats on his mind 6
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  • The_Gnome
    11 years ago

    Tell him that if he really loves you he should make time for you and stop making excuses not to see you. It sounds like he is taking you for granted after so long together. You could try a temporary seperation to see if after a couple weeks he remembers his love for you and begins to change, but if after this time he realises he has lost his love for you then atleast you can focus your strengths on finding someone better suited who really loves you, and not waste anymore time on someone who doesnt really love you. Its up to you BOTH.
    Alternatively force him to sit down with you ALONE and talk with him about the way he is making you feel and see what his reasonings for acting this way are and see how you can both change to help eachother; HOWEVER if he is being truly unreasonable in what he wants you to do and is using you then do not hesitate to tell him he is unreasonable and ask him if he still loves you for it doesnt seem that way anymore. (No matter how much I feel bad for saying this, if all else fails tug on his heart strings because he is obviously not treating you right).
    Whilst I believe you may find some good advice from this webpage, dont allow yourself to ruin your relationship unnecersarily on the foundings of what a couple nerds from the internet believe should occur. All the best, The_Gnome

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  • iin07
    11 years ago

    Tell him how you feel and let him know that you feel like you are at the bottom of his list of priorities. If he plans to marry you like you mentioned, he needs to make time for you and give you reasons why you should say yes when he proposes. But also, you should be understanding if he is busy. Maybe he is trying to improve his situation so that you two can finally start a happy life together. Whatever the case is, you both need to communicate so you understand each other better.

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