Is this fear normal

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So I'm going into the military in the fall and I'm getting married right before i go. I'm worried because of my girls drinking habits that something might happen with me not being there, im almost certain she wouldn't cheat on me sober but I've noticed that when she gets drunk she tends to be horny and flirtatious and i know a ring on the finger wont stop some guys so I'm not so much worried if this is normal but I'm asking should i talk to her about this because shes older than me and can go to clubs where I cant I get worried every time she goes and I'm certain she wouldn't tell me if she cheated and sometimes it drives me nuts thinking about it. I suppose the main reason I'm scared is because to her sex doesn't mean much and to me it doesn't either its just in my opinion if your in a relationship then you don't go else where but I'm not sure shes the same way and I'm positive that she loses control of her self when she drinks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Absolutely, talk to her about it.

    Also, prepare yourself for how you'd handle your worst-case-scenario, even if she promises you she won't. Could you forgive her?

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  • IndianaRose
    8 years ago

    Bruh you gone come home and shell be preggers err.

    If she does cheat on you dont stand for it leave asap you can do better then that no one deserves that no matter how much it will hurt you.

    Being drunk is not an excuse every one gets a bit loose when they drink if she fucks when shes drunk its coz she wanted to believe me.

    Good luck in the military ironically my fiancee is serving in the millitary right now

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  • Kyle33
    8 years ago

    Don't marry an alcoholic.

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    11 years ago

    Whoa whoa whoa, cut the run-on sentences and try that again. The hell was all that supposed to mean?

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    You sound pretty young to me so maybe it would be better if you waited to get married. You don't wanna promise yourself to a person who might betray you like that. Being cheated on really hurts and being intoxicated isn't an excuse for someone to cheat on you especially if your joining the military. If a person does that when they're drunk then they shouldn't drink at all. Don't waste your life with an older woman who might be an alcoholic. Life is too short.

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Me no like

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  • forevercg
    12 years ago

    do not get married to her:S

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  • darnitjoan
    13 years ago

    You sound like a really good guy. Talk to her about it because it's not going to get any better with distance between you.

    Good luck :) unfortunately this fear is very/far too normal/common.

    You've made me feel better that there is actually a male out there who feels that way.

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  • lynny4949
    14 years ago

    And it's very very normal.

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  • lynny4949
    14 years ago

    Maybe ask her to please not go to clubs while your gone?. I'm compleatly against drinking just because of this problem people tend to have, but lots of poeple do have this problem. In my personal opinion I wouldn't marry her cuz she sounds like she wouldn't be loyal at all.. And that NOT cool.

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  • Michelleulep
    13 years ago

    you might be the nicest guy I know right. talk to her and if you're really in love she will understand

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  • window48
    13 years ago

    i got a high score on dora the explorer

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