Is this considered hormophobia?

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there a guy I know (sraight) he's a friend of my best friend (also straight) he always acts weird when I'm around, we first met at a party and he often hangs out with me and my friends, sice every one takes for granted the fact I'm gay, we forgot he didn't know untill a few weeks after he started hanging out with us. he was realy shocked and suprised when he found out. (people often can't tell I'm gay) I asked him if he was ok with it and he said he was. but hes never treated me the same way, he only talks to me unless he has to, he often looks a bit nevous when I'm around,if I call him he dosen't awser and he's paranoied of me touching him, like once we sat next to each other in the car and he kept as close to the window as possible. or if I pat him in the back he jumps.
basicly I think he is terrified of me.
Is it hormophobia?
what can I do to make him ok with being around me?
at first I was just Ignoring it but now it's starting to upset me.

comment please

yes it's hormophobia 37
no it isn't 14
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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago | pl

    I usually don't like saying this about situations I have no idea about but this sounds like homophobia. Not malicious homophobia, but you need to talk to him and tell him that you have no intention of violating him or anything like that. That's probably what he's worried about.

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    • Hippie
      11 years ago

      Sounds about right

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    It probably is a bit homophobic, yes. Ignorance and unfamiliarity can breed fear that understanding may cure. I agree that it isn't the kind of malicious homophobia that leads people to beat or abuse another person, but it's still a negative reaction. If you otherwise think the guy's worth befriending, clear the air with him and talk to him about his apparent discomfort.

    By the way, it's homophobia, not hormophobia.

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    I think neuro has it right. It may not be actual homophobia as in fear but simply nervousness.

    He may not have any actual experience dealing with gays so he doesn't really know specifically how to act. Just be clear with everything and he should come around...and if he doesn't then yes, homophobia.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Maybe he is secretly gay and is terrified to admit it to himself.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Tell him not to flatter himself.

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    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      Is hormophobia fear of hormones?

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      • Energy
        11 years ago

        Lol!

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  • Ejay
    11 years ago

    Wow and everyone says its the strait white males segregating everything. But alas! Tis the gays!

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  • noid
    11 years ago

    He's probably afraid you're going to develop those kind of feelings for him.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    It is homophobia, and I would call hin on it. Then if he doesn't want to be your friend, it's his loss.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    why do you hang out with straight people?

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    • eats,shoots_and_leaves
      11 years ago

      I get along better with them as far as friendship is concerned, and most of them I know from high school.

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    • JuneB
      11 years ago

      Because we don't segregate straight people from gay people?

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