Is this considered emotional abuse?

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My mother periodically gets very angry. I mean full blown "ur a LAZY A**, u don't GIVE A S*** DO YOU! UR HARDLY PART OF THIS FAMILY. WHY DON"T U JUST LEAVE THEN! UR SO USELESS! I DONT EVEN KNOW WHERE UR BRAIN IS" and much much more, however, this is only occasional (and for very poor reasons, like one thing is out of place that wouldn't normally bother her), like twice a month or so, although, a lot of the time, it is her fake crying and asking me why i don't love her, her making stupid jokes to make a point, or her just not caring. Sometimes she is very nice, esp after not seeing me for a while, but you never know, and it confuses me a lot. Now that i am out of the house, it is TONS better, but i want to know what you guys think about all of this.

the extent of the physical is just being slammed against the wall...

I am a very good student and never do anything worse than occasionally forgetting to do a chore or something, and i don't really talk back.

I know this isn't that bad, but i want to know if it is normal or even a mild form of emotional abuse. Thanks for reading!

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    9 years ago

    Your mom sounds oddly similar to mine minus the verbal abuse. She's completely over dramatic. It especially pisses me off when she claims that she's the victim in every god damn situation despite her yelling in my face. Its tough having to deal with that crap on a daily basis and I totally understand your situation. Ah! Back to the question, uh... yes but only if you allow yourself to be the victim. You said you're a good student so where is being a lazy ass coming from?

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    And what if people tell you that indeed it is emotional abuse?

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  • moo333
    9 years ago

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your mom sounds like she is stressed or anxious and is taking it out unfairly on you. Love her but yeah it is something you have ti just figure out how to manage. One way that helped me was when my mother would start that kind of talk on the phone I would remain calm and say mum if you don't stop speaking like this I will have to go. After a few of those scenes and also leaving the house when she went crazy she backed right down. Also once you have children she may try to control that too and you have to make a stand on some things in a respectful kind but firm way.

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  • CuriousBG
    9 years ago

    Your mother has inward issues that don't involve you per say but rather she looks for any small opening you a allow in order for her to pile her mental issues on your shoulders. My mothers the same way minus the dramatics. She took every opportunity to let me know I wasn't worth shit but now as an adult I see that I've done all I can do on my part and salvaging any smidge of a relationship we had Is all up to her getting her shit together.

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