Is this cheating?

6 Comments

I've been with my girlfriend for several months now, and a couple of months ago we agreed not to be sexual yet. She is 2.5 years younger than me and also below the age of consent (16).

Last week I found out that she uses a couple of sex toys which her ex-boyfriend bought her. This just makes me feel... betrayed? I know she has every right to be sexual on her own, in any way that she likes. It's just the fact that she is using toys that he bought her, makes it feel like she is cheating on me with him. It's also a bit upsetting that she must have been so sexual with him despite only being with him a short amount of time. Again, I totally respsect her decisions, I just struggle with the feelings and don't know how to get over the jealousy.

It also worries me that, when we do become sexual, I will be a bit of a disappointment because her toy is a bit bigger than I am. I know this is a silly thought, but it's still there and upsets me.

Cheating 5
Not cheating 26
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 6 )
  • Lonelyandhorny47
    5 years ago

    I say if he's out of the picture then who cares,let her fuck herself to an oblivion with them if she wants.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Realnormalnotreally
    6 years ago

    This is not cheating but it is suspicious.

    To be fair her ex-boyfriend could just be peeing you off just to annoy you. Tell her ex to back off.

    If it was me i would talk to your girlfriend telling her how you feel. And that you feel.

    (Warning)
    Your boyfriend could have had sexual contact with your girlfriend, if he did then he had committed rape. (Underage)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • aetsen555
    6 years ago

    Not cheating but it is not normal in my opinion

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    It's not cheating, but something you should be concerned about nonetheless.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • barstool
    6 years ago

    I think those are legitimate concerns. It might sound stupid, but that would annoy me as well - the fact that her ex bought them. Maybe you should tell her...I don't know.

    I can understand not wanting to have sex. But it seems kinda...shitty that you can't do *anything* sexual. I'm thinking you should both go shopping for some new toys that you can both use together. But maybe she wouldn't be down with that... and that seems kinda shitty to me.
    But I don't know...I'm probably too old to pretend I can give any sort of advice here sorry.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      If she is 16 and he is over 18 he can't legally participate in any sex act, including toy play, with her.

      I don't think she is cheating but it's definately bad form of her to do that and announce it to him. He should find someone his own age who has a better sense of maturity.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      3
      3