Is this age difference acceptable? (15 & 20)

I'm 20 years old and I'm dating a 15 year old girl. I love her more than anything in the world, and I wouldnt want to ever hurt her, physically or emotionally. People say Im sick, or im arapist, or im a pedo. But we've never had sex, and I mean if she wanted to id go for it, but I will never pressure her into sex. And people automatically assume things like that, there is much more to a realationship than that! So what do you think? Is our relationship normal? IIN?

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47% Normal
Based on 103 votes (48 yes)
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  • Corleone

    I know other people who do this. If you guys were older (25 and 30, for example), it'd be less of a problem. But this... she's still going through puberty!

    Both the physical and mental differences are way too high at this age. I don't care how mature she looks or acts, she's a kid!

    I'm not authorized to tell you what to do. But if I was... I'd tell you to break up.

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  • thinkingaboutit

    no

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  • Statutory rape is bullshit! If it means anything im a serial rapist by that definition!

    So don't worry, but yeah i think it's ok. Others might not though.

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  • duckdynastygirl

    Forget what other people say if y'all are happy together then stay that way. There are always going to be people against what you do no matter what. As long as it's not killing anyone or anything forced then just be happy (:

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  • Avant-Garde

    I take where you live, 15 is not the legal age. No, it's not normal. Wait till she's of age until you start having sex or end the relationship. What do her parents think?

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  • got11

    I'm 21 and find the thought of being with a 15 year old repulsing. Shes still in highschool, she cant even drive yet dude. I think back when I was that age. Its a huge difference. A lot of maturing happens even from the ages of 15 to 17. To be interested in such an immature adolescent for an actual full blown relationship, you must be a little bit immature yourself.

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  • suckonthis9

    It is my opinion that adolescents should not have sexual relations with another person either two years their junior or two years their senior age differential. Further, it is my opinion that no person should have sexual relations with a pre-pubescent person. It is also my opinion that no adult should have sexual relations with an adolescent more than two years their junior in age differential.
    Note: Local laws in your respective jurisdiction might conflict with this. If they do, I would recommend to challenge the law, and to have it repealed and/or amended.
    It is my opinion that it is acceptable for an adult to have a relationship with an adolescent more than two years their junior in age differential, but with absolutely no sexual conduct, including kissing in a sexual manner. Further, it is my opinion that small tokens of affection is acceptable as per local custom. It is my opinion that as an adult, the onus of responsibility should be on you, to keep the relationship in a non-sexual state, until she becomes an adult, in this case.

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  • Starry_Skies~

    Is this Nick Collins?

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  • wtfno

    all i can say is under UK lay you're a peado.You are in a relationship with someone under 16,that wouldn't be a problem if you where under 16 as well but as you aren't no jury is ever going to say " love is blind,age doesn't matter".

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  • snafu

    If you love her that much put her on layby for two years simple

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  • duckdynastygirl

    I was about to date a 20 year old and I'm bout to be 16 . My parents knew and thought he was a great guy but he was to scared to meet them so we don't talk anymore

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  • GuessWho

    Many girls prefer older guys and 5 years will not seem like such a big difference in a few years from now.

    I know a few girls that are dating guys with this age gap.

    The main issue is the over/under 18 thing. You're legally considered an adult, and her a child.

    In the long run, age doesn't matter. There are 11 years between my grandparents and 4 years between my parents, neither ever experiencing any problems in their relationship.

    The best choice would probably be to keep your relationship where it is now until she's 18, then decide where to go with it from there.

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  • nAt2017

    It's technically illegal, but as long as you love her, I don't mind. Just wait for a little while, and five years won't be that big a gap. It's all about the ratio.

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    • Couman

      Why would it be illegal? He specifically they're not having sex. Just dating isn't a crime anywhere as far as I know.

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  • BlueJeans92

    illegal but no different from a 21 year-old n 16 year-old, which is legal as far as sex goes (where i live anyway). My current BF is 6 years older than me n we started dating when I was 16 or 17.
    I also agree with suckonthis9s opinions. (That said my 'first' was 21 and i was 15.) While I believe that I was mature enough and knew what I was doing... he is still going after teenagers 8 years later.

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  • russellnb

    There should not be sex even if she wants it. That is why we have statory rape laws because a 156 year old can not make an informed decision. If y really love her wait till she is 18 o rbetter yet 21.

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    • if someone cant make a decision at 156 they never will

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      • russellnb

        I just noticed that. I meant 15, the 156 was a misteak, but then Freud said there are no mistakes. Maybe I did mean 156.

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  • Neapolitana

    This is absolutely disgusting. She is a child. Her mind has not developed. I pray that you leave this poor girl alone and give her a chance to finish her childhood in peace.

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