Is this a normal relationship/marriage?

Tell him to get on with his life, he has wasted enough of it.

You have to see it from two points of view, I mean what she is doing is wrong no doubt about it, but there are two sides to every story,I mean she might be taking revenge because she feels like she has a whole lot on her plate example, everything is in her name, there might be a reason for that. I mean women can be sneaky dont get me wrong, Im a female and I know we can do crazy things to get what we want, has he tried to talk to her about the situation, because trying to deal with it by only arguing or seeking advice by someone else before thinking about what to do to make it better is a not a good step, he needs to make her sit down and tell her the reason he is not ready, and if that doesnt work seek other actions, the thing is people don't know what to do in a abusive relationship like that, Maybe going to a couples therapy session or something along those terms might help if he still loves her, I mean after all they prob where never always like this, so somewhere down the track of there marriage something went wrong they might have never got the chance to fix.

There's always two sides to a story and without that who are we to judge. What goes on behind closed doors is their business and without both being present to give their sides one can always over exaggerate the situation and add things and miss things out to their advantage so they sound like they are hard done by or abused when quite possibly he has made her that way.

He sounds like a pussy.

Move on, don't look back. Forget everything they shared. Let her ruin someone else's life. Without that torture, he will have a happier life once back on his feet. A wife is suppose to respect the husband choice, as so should the husband with his wife.

Yea. She sounds along the lines of passive-aggressive. Something to avoid, at all costs.

It's covert abuse.

This is an abusive relationship and he should stay away no matter what. Just because it's mental and emotional abuse instead of physical doesn't mean it's any less serious.
Domestic abuse charities would probably help him and maybe he should move away if she has enough influence in his life to lose him his job.

This is a very sickk relationship. Thats another poor man taken advantage of by a women. (& Im not saying this because Im a dude because Im not)

She sounds kids psycho to me, and willing to do and go to any length to get what she wants. Tell your friend to run away, far far away!