Is this a normal reaction to spankings as a kid?

I hear people argue for spanking kids saying it didn't negatively effect them, they showed respect, and they didn't hate or fear their parents.
It didn't work that way on me. Looking back I wasn't spanked excessively or any different than average but it did cause me trust issues with my parents. I always felt uncomfortable and distant towards them and have anger and resentment I do not fully understand.
Punishment never fully worked on me either. I would just try harder to not get caught. Today I have some severe anger problems and I respond to punishment with an obsession of revenge. I do not know if they are to blame or if I would have turned out like this anyway.

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  • I don't know, maybe, but like maybe not.

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    • YourMomSaysHello

      That's so deep!

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      • Yep.

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  • Thatguy777

    Romeo is a dumbass....

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    • You should read the debate below I'm having with him.
      I do not understand his logic.

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  • Dad

    Corporal punishment specifically spanking is generally classed as illegal worldwide.

    There are only a couple of countries that still falsely think its a good idea (US and the Middle East)
    ALL other countries have made it ILLEGAL as research has concluded (many times) that spanking your own child (insane I know) causes pain and fear. Its ridiculous to think that a loving parent would EVER think this is a good method.

    I was spanked as a child MANY times. Pretty sure my own dad spanked me even when I laughed too loud, which seemed to be annoying for him.
    But everyday seemed to have a good reason to spank us kids.

    I am not an angry person, and I'm presently 'normal' (as much I understand) minded. So many tend to argue that it didn't hurt me.
    WELL IT DID. Think back to when/if you were spanked as a child. It was SCARY, you likely CRIED, and it HURT, and later on your were both SAD and ANGRY. Great feelings to have for my own dad.

    I hated my dad spanking me, and all it did was stop me from allowing my own young kids staying in his care alone EVER.

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  • Leviathanel

    sounds like another classic case of thinks too highly of himself blaming somone else for his flaws.

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  • mixwell

    Used to get my ass whipped by my parents and everythings cool wit me. People are too pussified now, spankings were the punishment for years and everything was ok. Now we have more spoiled brats and guys who arent men like they used to be.

    The stereotype of men being handy, having car knowledge and doin manly things is dying out. Bunch of pussy metrosexual hipsters concerned with bullshit instead of learning generic things men should know.

    Off topic but just ranting....

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  • n0Tn0rm4L

    I think it is a normal part of life to resent how our parents raised us. Otherwise how could we better ourselves, or help our children to be better too?

    I can relate to the OP in that when I am wronged I do think about revenge, however I never follow through as I know the reward is not nearly worth the risk of getting caught. Which in these situations is highly likely. I thoroughly enjoy my freedom.

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  • kelili

    I had been often spanked as a child and now these memories make me smile. Maybe it's not the spanking that made you that way or not only.

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    • Why would it make you smile?

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      • RoseIsabella

        That's whut I'm saying yo!

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  • RainbowDischarge

    I'm not sure. As a child I had my share of smacks to the face/head, spanked with yard stick ruler thing, belt, and on a few occasions I was pushed to the floor or into the wall while being screamed at. I also am distant with both of my parents. I am very uncomfortable when they try to kiss my forehead or hug me. Affection from them is so awkward and uncomfortable for me. I dont know if this has to do with my punishments as a child or what. Sometimes I was left locked in the garage in the dark for a little bit of time. I dont hate my parents, infact sometimes I feel bad that I dont show affection and that when they do I just stand there and mumble "I love you." When my father kisses my head I even cringe and take a step back. I do not like it. Oh. Im also very hot headed like you. Im an angry person whose been diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality.

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    • I had nothing nearly that bad. Your past sounds horrible and I do not understand why you wouldn't hate your parents.
      Personally I would have grown up to kill them.

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    • Leviathanel

      my parents beat me a few times too but it wasn't all that bad. more threats and a lot of yelling. but honestly all that crap has honestly gotten us closer. it's like the worst is all over and done with and we all get along. (save my brother but we're talking about my parents here.)

      i would say that the fact that i was beaten did not have an adverse effect on my adult relationship with my parents.

      what makes beating kids wrong is after their beaten they're a little more violent inside. if their greatest role models think that beating them is alright then why can't the child beat the kid at school that called him a name?

      violence begets more violence. and besides it's really annoying how bitchy parents force us adults to dumb down our shit to make it more "appropriate" for the life-style they've set out their children to have. then turn around and not let your kid play mortal kombat but you kick their asses? just seem illogical to me. i guess i got to wait and see. but no matter what i will never beat my kid. (as a child, i'm free to kick their asses once they grow up.)

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Well your one very stupid child. I think maybe you are just a psychopath. Since your mind does not work like a normal persons and you go out of your way to defy authority no-matter what the consequence. Which are symptoms of a psychopath. Get a mental health check. You are crazy.

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    • lolol555

      Stop saying the OP is all of those insults like it's a fact. It's just your opinion which, actually, tells us more about you than it does the OP.

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        So you believe in not accepting blame for anything. If you do something like get a bad grade and daddy takes away tv and you hit him with a bat that is not a normal solution to the issue. If you plot revenge on anyone who has ever punished you even if your punishment was just is that normal reaction to the situation? Is believing doing bad things is alright and anyone trying to keep order needs to be hurt is normal? No its dangerous! That is a person without limits. Most people have limits of some sort. OP, from what they said have none. Most people would stop if they know they did something bad but OP has already said they would attack the punisher if the punishment is just or not.

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    • It's been suggested I'm a psychopath before which I doubt I am because I do care about some people and I like animals and feel strongly against abuse.

      I still do not understand why people accept punishment. If someone punishes me I will go to any length to get revenge. I do not understand why people who had bad childhoods do not kill their parents or whoever hurt them

      Honestly it baffles my mind.

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        Also there is a difference between punishment and abuse. You clearly do not know the difference. Punishment is administered if you did something wrong. Abuse is simply hurting someone for the sake of being hurtful.

        Being sent to prison since you stole means you are being punished not abused. You clearly do not care who you hurt with your misbehavior/misconduct so that would go along with the psychopath theory.

        Also some abused children have snapped back so its not like that scenario has never happened before. You are talking about two different things. You think any type of punishment is worth attacking the punisher even if you know you rightfully deserved it. Which means you are self centered, and inconsiderate of how what you do affects others.

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        • YourMomSaysHello

          You two should meet each other and bash each others heads with huge sledgehammers, see who would win.

          Survival of the fittest!

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        • Some good advice for debating I can give you is never use the terms "you think"

          In debates this is an invalid argument since you never truly know what the other person thinks.

          Instead you should use "in my opinion"

          You will sound much more reasonable.

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        You probobly are. People who are insane, Autistic or retarded do not have normal functioning brains. In a normal person brain they think "Punishment is bad and action must no-longer be performed". Which is how a normal persons mind works.

        Your mind works "They try and stop me I defy them". Which is a sign of insanity. Psychopaths are not deterred by the law and do not care when and if they get put in prison for the crime they commit.

        They also go out of way to commit criminal acts and have an urge to do it without any consideration of the people around them. So yeah psychopath. Also not all psychos/sociopaths kill animals. However animal abuse is considered a sign of insanity.

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        • I don't go out of my way to commit crimes but if someone crosses me by punishing me I will make certain they will regret it.
          It is logical to stick up for yourself and makes no sense to accept something that hurts you.

          I already know I'm autistic and the psychopath part has been suggested as well by a few but I think if I was an actual psychopath I wouldn't care about the people I care about.

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          • RomeoDeMontague

            You are not sticking up for yourself. You are committing misdeeds and than are angry when you are punished for them. Which means you are have 0 consideration for those who hurt with your misdeed. Which once again sounds like a psychopath.

            Though if you are Autistic I suppose you would have to take that into consideration too. If you know you are doing bad things you should stop doing them not be angry you get in trouble for them.

            Did you once stop to consider your victim? So if you kill someone just for a good laugh and they punish you I suppose you blame that person for being killed and the officer for locking you up. If you are being a dick that was your choice. So you should be made to live with what happens next.

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            • I don't think I do anything that bad.
              I don't agree with what most people concider right or wrong though. It's mostly opinion.
              I don't go around raping babies and killing puppies.

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