Is this a normal guy best friend relationship?

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Ok so currently I'm an 18 year old still in high school and my best friend is 16. We met when I was in 8th grade and we have been extremely close since. I first realized I was bi because of him because I started falling for him pretty quickly. If I ever believed in love at first aight, this would be it. When I first met him everything just clicked and I've never had that happen with anyone else. Over the years we have hooked up several, ranging from kissing to hj's, but we would never talk about it after the fact for some reason. Recently we got even closer and started talking about our feelings more and after one night specifically we both said I love you to each other and I kissed him and he never said anything. The day after I figured that it was time to finally address the situation and tell him of my feelings. The only thing was he told me that he didn't have feelings and that the hook ups don't mean anything either which really confused me.. We tried going back to being best friends but he still flirts with me. He is now very hot and cold now. Some days he's really nice and flirts but other days he's an asshole and is mean to me. I'm just so confused. He's never had a relationship with anyone nor hooked up with anyone else. Even his family notice he's different when he's with me. Please help!

He's Gay/Bi 4
He's Straight 1
He's confused and I should confront him again 20
Not be friends with him anymore and move on 1
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  • iin2want2know
    11 years ago

    Do you remember when you were in grade school when someone really picked on you? It always turned out that those people were the ones that liked you the most. Him being mean to you seems like a coping mechanism for his own sexual insecurities. I think he does like you but needs some time to come to terms with himself. The question is, will you be able to remain friends while you wait for him to straighten his feelings out.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Sounds like he's in denial. This migth not be teh best analogy, but it's like masturbating over weird porn. You do it, but then after you question if it's wrong or not. You pretend you didn't do it, then next time you're horny you do it again. Sounds liek denial to me. He's not sure if it's right, and trys to sweep it under the rug and forget it happened, but keeps coming back.

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