Is this a normal and appropriate friendship?

"Maybe we can find a way to cuddle with no one getting upset."

If he's looking for a way to cuddle her without getting other's upset then... he's got more than just cuddling on his mind.

If his intentions were innocent he wouldn't be worried about getting caught. It's time to get counseling now before he gets arrested for putting his "dice stick" where it shouldn't go.

Benefit of the doubt until the last paragraph. I miss you? Uh oh. Alarm bells. Great big alarm bells.

C'mon now, the obvious answer is NO it is not appropriate- specifically with the facebook comment.

Whether it is platonic or not the fact that he is ignoring that you find it inappropriate is a problem.

I think that alone say's a lot.

You are his wife. Your feelings matter most.

I would think a loving husband would sacrifice a "strong bond" with an adolescent to salvage the good terms he is on with his spouse of X amount years.

Or at least understand why you find it inappropriate and change his behavior immediately.

This is wrong. You need to stop it. Quick.

In my opinion I would not be surprised if one day you found out they screwed.

Not being mean, just being real.

I'd tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable and remind him how it could appear. Even if it is innocent he's putting himself in a dangerous postion, this girl could turn around and say anything. And with people seeing how they are together they will assume the worst, leaving him, you and tour family open to abuse and all sorts. Personally I would nip it in the bud and insist that if he is around this girl that their not left alone together and be aware of things he says to her and pull him up if you think its not appropriate

Cuddling with friends dad when your 15 is weird.

I can understand him wanting to enjoy friendship with someone that has similar interests as him, regardless of age or gender. Nevertheless, his behaviour sounds inappropriate for a married man, in my opinion.

He is treading on thin ice you need to take action before something happens. He is your husband so take the initiative before it is too late. When I read that he said "Maybe we can find a way to cuddle with no one getting upset" I was like WOAH. He wouldn't have said that unless he knows what he's doing is unorthodox, take hold of your man he needs some help and intervention. Good luck!

I think it could be a normal thing. If, say, it was your sons male friend and your husband had geeky stuff in common, that would be fine. If the game night would be 2 fathers and sons, no problem. It's like, why would it be so much different with a female?

I do understand some things make you uncomfortable though, and no matter if there is danger or not, those things should be addressed...and that is the physical closeness they seek. Cuddling or sitting on his lap are simply things that don't seem approbiate, there's nothing about being upset, it simply makes you uncomfortable and you'd prefer if he did not do that.

Unless there is more reason, i don't think you have to be afraid of something, but you should still have that talk.

LOL "I miss you.''

Oh, really pedo?

Yeah, that's a little troubling....

I have heard teachers say the exact same thing to their children students when they are leaving to go to highschool.
Most of the were female teachers. Does that mean that they wanted to molest their students? Perhaps this man just has a strong connection and wishes her to be one of his own kids? Perhaps his actual daughter has nothing in commen with him, and he has found a girl that he thought his daughter would be like to fill in the part that he knows his child isn't the way he would like her to be?

Keep a close eye on them, but don't assume the worst straight away.

No, it's not normal. Tell him the way you feel about it and if he doesn't stop maybe you should tell the girl's parents. Risking your husband to get sued but let's face it, he probably has it coming,

Newsflash!

He is already fucking her.

How old is your husband? Also, there was a guy here with the same story, where he wanted to know whether his actions were okay. Did you post that or are both of you guys on here?

That don't sound right & if they haven't already, only a matter of time till they do.... :-/

assume the worst and put a stop to it, if you cant you could go gaming with them

Your husband sounds like he still has an inner child and now he has simply found a close friend of similar interests in your daughter's friend. That, or he's treading close to pedophilia; perhaps without knowing so (Almost everything spoke of a friendly father-daughter sort of relationship except the "Maybe we can find a way to cuddle with no one getting upset" is very worrying to read. Why would cuddling upset others unless it's a type of cuddling that happens behind closed doors? Very worrying, indeed). I don't know your husband or your daughter's friend and their relationship well enough to make a sound opinion. I suggest talking reasonably and calmly about it with your husband again. Maybe talk about it with the girl's parents? Communication in marriage is key after all.