Is this a healthy relationship between me and my friend?

Okay, so the most obvious answer is 'no,' but keep reading.
Well, I only have one friend, which is fine with me. She and I have been friends for several years, and I really love her. (As a friend. This isn't about that kind of thing.) We have mostly a long-distance relationship; we're close, but we mainly talk over the phone. But the truth is, she basically does all the talking. She tells me every detail about her life since we last talked, and I listen and offer my input. I've adopted many of her interests, but she hardly knows what mine even are. I help her with her problems, and keep my own to myself most of the time, and she hardly notices.

Now, before you go and hit the 'no' button because clearly this isn't a fair friendship, keep in mind that I like it this way. Although I wish we had more in common, I actually like listening to her talk; it does me more good hearing about someone else's problems than sharing my own, and when a serious issue comes up in her life, it brings us closer together than ever. I think it's good for both of us.

Yet she dominates it all the time. I can't help but feel it's not entirely fair. Tell me, do you think this is a healthy friendship or not?

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Based on 70 votes (32 yes)
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Comments ( 6 )
  • Shackleford96

    No, because I had one like that before. It ended in much hurt and I still get bitter thinking about it sometimes...

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  • D'lirium

    Mmmmm. Can't say. Guess it is.

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  • creativewriterfighter

    Do't listen to these people. I agree that it isn't a healthy relationship but its not like she's a terrible person. She likes to talk, you like to listen. I relate to you a lot, I have a friend like this. She's a talker and I'm not and she always talks about herself and her own problems and don't ask about mine, but if I wanted her to know, she'd know. Its just hard for me to talk about myself, thats MY fault not hers. So I feel like its more your fault then hers but thats NOT A BAD THING so don't think that. If you want her to know something, you have to muster up the courage to tell her, thats on you not her. If she still wants to talk about herself, thats when it becomes a severely unhealthy relationship but for now you're fine. Though you should know my friend and I aren't as close as we were before, we just dont have that much in common, so be aware it could happen...

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  • Kelsey173

    Any friendship that makes you feel even in the slightest bit uncomfortable should be reconsidered.
    I seriously consider telling her how you feel. Maybe she honestly doesn't realise what she's doing is wrong.

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe

    wow.

    i used to have a friend just like that - always sharing her problems, but never really caring about mine.

    notice that i said "used to".

    but if you like it, hey, whatever.

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  • annm2361

    It wouldn't hurt her to ask about u once in a while is all u need to explain to her then if u don't wanna talk that's ur choice but u should be able to vent too.

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