Is this a good plan for porn consumption?

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This year at college I plan on masterbating to porn once a week, always on sunday morning when my roommate is gone(duh). I was badly addicted over the summer without much ladies to chase but now that I'm back in school I have more oportunities with women. I went cold Turkey on porn for two weeks at the start of the year but that was making me depressed and actually less motivated to pursue women which is weird. So I think that once a week will keep my sex drive contained while also avoiding getting addicted to porn again because that's no fun. Is this a good idea? If not, what would you advise me to do instead?

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  • trexagireve
    4 years ago

    There is no such thing like "too much porn" just watch as much you want!!

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      My experience disputes this claim. Over this past summer I masturbated to porn 3-5 times a day and my sex drive around real women was lower than I wanted it and it was getting really inconvenient. Too much porn can inhibit real life sexual performance which is important to me.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    You make it sound like you literally spend hours watching porn and fapping away if you have the time to do that.

    It seems to me that the best approach to life is to strive for balance in all things. If you find that porn is so alluring that once you start watching it you get pulled down the proverbial rabbit hole and can't stop, then you need to do something about it. Only you can decide what exactly that is.

    Here's a radical suggestion:

    The basic point of college is to provide young people with an education, not to be a happy hunting ground for horn-dogs.

    If regular masturbation reduces the time you spend thinking about women and chasing them, that could mean you have more time to devote to your studies and you'll be less distracted.

    There's nothing wrong with a functional fap first thing in the morning to help you wake up and another one last thing at night to help you relax and get to sleep. That routine would help reduce your general sexual tension.

    If you're not able to do that using only the power of your imagination because you've trained yourself to only be able to get off when watching some totally fake scenario with totally fake actors doing really nasty shit to each other and totally faking their enjoyment, then I would agree that you have a problem with porn.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Over the summer I do fap to porn for hours a day. That's exactly what I did. As much as college is supposed to be about education, that's not really what it's about for me. It only takes a small amount of my effort to do well in all my classes, probably because my major is an easier one and because I study it for fun on my own time so I already know half of it. So in other words, I have a lot of left over energy and time. I love to work out two but with how strong I am a two hour workout has me fried so I can't do that all day either.

      I do think college is a very target rich environment for women and so I should take advantage. I want to avoid porn addiction because it swipes my sex drive and I want actual sex. Another reason is because my roommate likes to show up randomly a lot and he would be real grossed out and were kinda friends so that would be very bad.

      Would you really say I have a problem if I only get off to certain types of porn? Because I would say that's very true for me. I'm a little bit sexually numbed so it takes a little work to get off after all the porn I've watched but that helps me last longer in bed irl so I'm not too worried. I'm sure I could use my imagination if I was horny enough but it's too much work. I wouldn't call what I get off to "totally fake with fake enjoyment" women like bondage and seeing them in it gets me off like nothing else. I don't need the absolute savage hardcore BDSM where they practically kill her just to get off. I have never worried about my specific porn requirements once I realized it doesn't inhibit my sexual performance irl.

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      • Boojum
        4 years ago

        We all have our preferences, so I can't see how only getting off to a certain type of porn is always a huge issue. I guess it would be if the interest was incredibly niche, but hell, references to BDSM are all over the freaking place these days.

        I think you put your finger on the real issue I have with porn when you said you felt sexually numbed. I've never bought the idea that porn is the source of all evil and responsible for the actions of every or even most rapists and serial sexual killers, but I do think there's an escalation mechanism at work with people (guys in particular) who view a lot of porn.

        I bet that, if you look back on your viewing preferences, stuff that was incredibly arousing five years ago (or whenever you started watching) now seems incredibly tame. I would hope that your moral compass is sufficiently active to stop you ever being into the truly extreme flavours of BDSM porn, but I wouldn't be surprised if there might just be a teensy bit of interest in that sort of thing rootling around way down in the animal part of your brain.

        What you watch now doesn't really do it for you any more, so the logical thing is to ramp it up a little with something a bit more extreme.

        It's your life, and you have to figure out the best use of your time and youthful energy for yourself. I'm sure there must be more available to you than just classrooms, women and a gym, so I have problems buying the idea that the only other thing you could possibly do with your time is jerk off.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          The whole idea of porn escalating is true and I don't question its existence. However, I don't think it has happened with me because of unique circumstances. The first porn video I ever watched was kinky and every other one since. I could still easily get off to the first video I watched. I think the reason for this us because I knew I was kinky before I watched any porn at all. That's not how it works for most people. More often than not people find out by watching porn.

          In terms of the extreme flavour of BDSM, it depends how you define the terms, but there isn't much I wouldn't want to do with a sexy woman Irl. The majority of the porn I watch irl is a lot TAMER than what I would do myself or even have done. I don't think I have a limit in terms of extreme shit as long as its somewhat same, legal and consensual. And I don't think there is a porblme with that either.

          What else to use youthful energy for? I can't stop thinking about fitness and sex and that's all I'm good at anyways I suck at everything else I try.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Remember to collect the semen up into a bottle afterwards for the sperm bank so that it doesn’t go to waste.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Why? Is that what you do sir?

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        I don’t masturbate anymore as I have a wife whom I sometimes fuck when I’m bored, but when I did as a teenager I always ensured my semen was collected and put to good use.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Did you really? What if I don't want kids tho?

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            You can just send it to a sperm bank and they’ll artificially insemenate someone for you.

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            • Boojum
              4 years ago

              🤣

              I'm sure the bank will be very grateful for DNM's generous donation of this rare and highly-prized commodity, as will the women who receive it.

              Since he's an impoverished college student, he can save money by filling a recycled 2 litre Coke bottle rather than mailing smaller quantities every week.

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            • Doesnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              I don't want random people walking around with my genetics. That's a lot of work anyways.

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  • BleedingPain
    4 years ago

    Why schedule your porn? You should do it when the urge arrises (Assuming you are free and not doing important things like going to class, hanging out with friends, ect...) I see no reason to set a time for porn.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      If I do it whenever I have the urge, that would be 3-5 times a day. That would be rather inconvenient not to mention that I want actual sex more in the long term. Long term dependence on porn fucks with my head and my sex drive big time. Do you not believe in porn addiction or what mate?

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      • BleedingPain
        4 years ago

        I do believe in porn addictions. Maybe I need to reevaluate my Masturbation habits.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          I'm not gonna tell you what to do with your dick. But porn addiction can inhibit real life sexual perfomance and drive. That's a side effect I wanna avoid. If you don't mind that side effect. Or you don't get that side effect, than knock yourself out.

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          • BleedingPain
            4 years ago

            Boy do I wish I had a dick

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            • Doesnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Serious? I thought for sure you were a guy. Maybe I confused you with someone else.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    4 years ago

    I tried doing that when I started to get a bit addicted, except I set 3 times per week when I would do it. It was annoying, I'd be really horny one day but I wouldn't be able to relieve it until 1 or 2 days later. But then when the allotted time finally came I wasn't in the mood anymore.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Okay. Good to know what you did although I would say 3 times is a lot different than just one. I like being pretty horny most times idk why but more frequent relief over the summer (1-3 times a day) didn't leave me very horny at all. Less horny than I wanted to be in fact.

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